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Wisdom Scopes Lunar Cycle July 12 – Aug 11

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Overarching themes for the month: Look into new ways of getting things done that aren’t about separation or exclusion – looking at the cut off, shadow aspects both within and without, especially in relation to home and family – bringing those aspects into acceptance and integrating them as part of your superpower.

ARIES

9 of Swords

There can be some worry energy with you this lunar cycle – has the thing you’ve been desiring the most been eclipsing all the joy out of your life? Perhaps it’s time to change tack a little. Prioritize joy. Figure out what made you fall in love with what you do in the first place. Emphasize the process instead of the end result. Whenever you feel like you’re having trouble sitting with the emotions that come up for you this month, dear Aries, remember to write them down or express them in some way. You’ve been too hard on yourself! Remember that you are part of a huge paradigm shift – you’ve been steadily changing your values and your way of life, and this takes time as your body and mind adjusts on every level. It means that you’ve given up the illusion of security for what’s real – following your heart and callings of your soul. Know that any hiccup is temporary and that you’re on the right track. The lesson of this lunar cycle lies in deepening in your self-love and the way you stay with yourself on this journey. You’re not alone; consider giving Source your worries and being open to receiving answers in dreamtime.

TAURUS

Chariot

This is the last leg of a marathon you’ve been running and all it requires is for you to put your blinders on. Turn the volume down on the doubts in your head, the needless social interactions that only drain or distract you, the things that you habitually turn to in order to numb your senses or drown out how you really feel. Feel what you feel. Own them. And seek to act in a way that honors your feelings instead of repressing or projecting. Sounds exhausting? It doesn’t have to be. Just aim to be with yourself and stay there for as long as you can bear it, and notice when you get the urge to check out. If nothing else, just remember that it’s okay to have those tender, vulnerable feelings. Everyone has them, you’re not alone in feeling this way. This lunar cycle will see you follow something through to completion and emerge victorious at the end of it. So don’t waste your precious energies on fears and doubts, and channel them instead into constructive action. You will feel completely different by the time you get to the next lunar cycle.

GEMINI

Ace of Pentacles

What a wonderful period of new beginnings for you, dear Gemini! You’ve just been through a major milestone (graduation, new job, relocation, decision to move on from something) and though it may have felt long and arduous, you’re now seeing the fruits of all your labor. Thus begins a new phase where you will not only feel like you’re in your element, you will soon be challenged to develop hidden skills and talents. You’ve left behind an old self – the self that brought you to where you needed to go. This phase will bring you material rewards and blessings, so don’t worry if issues of scarcity and supporting yourself are on your mind at the moment. Material issues may be especially pertinent because some of the decisions you’ve made may seem like a ‘downgrade’ on the surface – you’ve followed your heart, but why did that mean also losing some of the comforts you’ve gotten used to? All of that was a process to help you discern what you truly value above all else, and if you paid attention, the sense of fulfilment you’ll get is priceless. This lunar cycle, prepare to do the work of laying down foundations and continuing to tend to your goals. Signs – especially from nature – will be popping up all over the place to tell you you’re on the right track.

CANCER

Priestess of Pentacles, reversed

Sometimes you doubt that you are being supported, despite all evidence that shows you that everything is conspiring on your behalf, dear Cancer. But these doubts can be easily quelled this lunar cycle, if you constantly come back to counting your blessings. See how you are clothed, fed, how your skills are needed and affirmed, how you have never lacked in the things you need. An easy way to shift your focus away from fears of being unsupported is to focus instead of what you are able to give. Giving is an easy way to connect to a sense of mastery and abundance, especially when you give from a place of true confidence and groundedness in your skill sets. You don’t have to bend over backwards or perform an amazing magic trick, all you have to do is show up as you. The 100%, authentic, not-watered-down version of you. Giving can also look like allowing others to discover their sense of power versus taking care of things for them. Taking a step back can also be giving. Be open to playing around with your sense of abundance, where you may be clinging or grasping, and where you find yourself most fearfully hanging on, gently let go by giving something away.

LEO

Daughter of Cups, reversed

Things have changed – you have changed in positive ways, dear Leo, you just have to allow yourself to believe it. Life is continuing to invite you to drop your baggage, in order to bring out your childlike sense of joy and playfulness – will you accept the invitation? If you’re feeling like it’s been hard to let go of certain grudges or hang-ups, it may be helpful to look at where you’re continuing to nurse old wounds. Realize that no one else has power over you unless you allow it, dear one. When you forgive others and yourself, you acknowledge that life is a journey – one where we learn lessons and grow in wisdom. We inevitably make mistakes or hurt others and ourselves in the process, but nothing is ever truly personal – we simply meet those who are mirrors for us on our path. This lunar cycle, the more you can dive deeply into allowing yourself to experience simple pleasures and joys, while realizing that only you are the one who can ‘make you’ feel any kind of way, you reclaim your power and agency, while getting in touch with your joyful spirit. Give yourself this gift, and lose the excess baggage. You will be renewed emotionally by the end of this lunar cycle.

VIRGO

Hierophant

Who holds the ultimate authority in your life? This cycle sees you parsing through the messages you’ve received over the years over the ‘right’ and ‘acceptable’ things to do, and choosing to either make them your own, reject them, or rework them. The important thing to do here is coming to an understanding of where these viewpoints came from, and how you may have internalized some of them without ever consciously making a decision about whether these things feel right for you, the unique individual you are. Yet you’ve also been grappling recently with a need for belonging, a longing for home and rightness of place. To what extent do you blunt your edges to fit in? Where are you willing to do so? Do you dare to simply be your authentic self and watch as your people slowly start showing up in your life? Because it’s already happening. You’re also starting to realize that some of the things you used to reject as too restrictive or ‘old-school’ actually hold kernels of truth or wisdom that you may have too hastily discarded. They’re always there and available for you to rework. Be willing to integrate old with new. You come full circle this cycle, integrating older pieces of you that may have been thrown out with the bathwater in the past.

LIBRA

Ace of Cups

A new sense of self-love and acceptance is available to you this lunar cycle, dear Libra. It’s been a bumpy ride this first half of 2018 as intensity has ratcheted up, especially in the realm of your relationships. That has always been the area where you’ve received the most insights and revelation, growth and challenges. It’s likely that the eclipse and new moon has seen you gain a new understanding of what drives you in terms of the types of relationships and partners you tend to look for in your life. Where there was once a need for power or dominance, you have now greater access to your vulnerability, and a desire to come into balance within yourself so that you may have greater balance within your relationships as well. This is tough work, but you’ve been bravely taking it on! Look forward to feeling freer within relationships. Know that you belong deeply to yourself, and no one else – there needs to be one before there can be two. Remember, the more you know yourself, the more you are capable of knowing the other. This cycle, you will see the birth and growth of many promising new or existing relationships.

SCORPIO

Son of Cups, reversed

There is a tendency to isolate into ideals whenever your feelings are agitated, dear Scorpio. This sometimes also looks like falling back onto polarized thinking as a default – making whatever’s bad, ugly, unpleasant all about ‘them’ and ‘definitely not me!’. Conversely, these may be internalized as a deep sense of shame, thinking that you are somehow intrinsically bad just for making a mistake or perceiving yourself as having ‘failed’ in some way. A significant part of your life path is about transmuting darkness and all that’s associated with it, integrating these aspects as a part of your whole – and this sometimes can mean struggling with the hardest, stickiest parts of all that comes with being human. Give yourself a break, dear one. Start with that thing about yourself that you find hardest to love, and see if you can start to come to terms with it by simply refusing to turn away. This cycle, you can find release through music in all forms, being by large bodies of water, or simply allowing yourself to cry. It’s a cycle where the tenderest aspects of you can be held up to the light and loved for all that it is. Offer yourself self-compassion so that it becomes easier to do the same for those you love, too.

SAGITTARIUS

Emperor

The alarm clock has gone off and the ringing is now obnoxiously loud. The heavens are urging you to act on those soul impulses, in order to ensure that you continue to materialize them into reality. It’s also about delineating your boundaries and identifying the lane that you’ll be staying in – your boundless curiosity sometimes means you chase certain distractions, causing you to lose energy and enthusiasm for the stuff that you DO truly care about. This cycle, watch where your attention goes. Harnessing your attention mindfully will help you avoid energy leaks while making sure that what you do want to focus on grows! Organization is key. Putting your ideas down and making them into a workable, actionable plan is so important. See if you notice any resistance coming up as you read this. What are some of your stumbling blocks when it comes to creating to-do lists? Is it boredom? A fear that this would mean less variety, less excitement? A structure will actually set you free, dear one. No longer will you need to spend time making little decisions along the way, when an overarching structure will help you to prioritize, prioritize, prioritize. You will be freed up to focus on what truly matters to you.

CAPRICORN

10 of Swords

You’re coming to an end of a cycle, dear Capricorn, where you learn that pushing on and using pure mental energy just isn’t going to cut it anymore. This is a time where you learn that allowing others to help you, attuning to the natural rhythms of how things unfold, as well as listening and waiting can actually help you to reach your goals more smoothly and with half the effort. You are always being supported, even if the support may come in unconventional forms. This is really just an invitation to more fully embody a lot of the spiritual concepts and teachings you’ve come into contact with – whether it’s cultivating more presence, solitude, gratitude or prayer, you’re being asked to start pulling back on your mental energies while tapping into these hidden resources. The whole point of it is to deepen your connection to Source, which will allow things to flow a lot more easily. Even when the road ahead seems murky. Especially when it all seems murky. This is part of a larger cycle where you’re reworking a lot of your old habits around work, beliefs about striving and pushing, and being way too hard on yourself. Are you ready for things to become a lot easier this lunar cycle? Do you dare to believe that your life could flow with more grace and ease? Once you allow yourself to believe this, dear Capricorn, you’re already halfway there.

AQUARIUS

10 of Cups

This will be such a lovely period of emotional fulfilment for you, dear Aquarius. So many things are going to show up to affirm that all the (usually invisible) work you’ve put in and the nights you’ve spent poring over your dreams and working hard are now paying off. This will also be seen within your relationships – you will know who your people are, and you will feel immensely supported by them. This is a great time for going out and about connecting with those that you vibe with, showing them support and love whenever you can. There’s a lot of mutual admiration going on here! You may also be seeing a relationship culminate in a serious commitment – this is a positive indication of some of the emotional work you’ve been doing. You’ve become so much more open and communicative, so don’t be surprised if you notice that more and more people are responding to you in open and loving ways. This is especially healing after a period of time that may have been jarring – relationships that have fallen by the wayside and so on. Enjoy this lunar cycle by spending time with your loved ones, basking in the joy you’ve woven around yourself and others.

PISCES

9 of Cups, reversed

If you knew that you could have anything you wished for, what would you choose? The first thing that pops right into your head may be the answer – but there’s an invitation to go deeper. Could it be that what you want is really the feeling that comes with the thing, rather than the thing itself? Safety, security, freedom – these are usually the feelings that we actually want, not the million dollars, not the dream job, not the ‘perfect’ body. This month, know that you WILL get what your heart desires, perhaps not in the imagined form, but something that will bring you that longed for feeling. All it takes is for you to be open to having your usual preconceived notions challenged a little. The secret is that you can cultivate these feelings without ever materially attaining those things! You just need to be willing to dig a little deeper, and go into some of your more vulnerable feelings, dear Pisces. Once you get to the heart of what you truly desire, you will realize that maybe the form something takes on is no longer important. This is especially so when you truly realize and embody the truth that you already have all you need within you. May your wish be “Only give me what’s meant for me”, and your wish will always come true.

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Wisdom Scopes Lunar Cycle June 13 – July 11

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This moon cycle kicks off a period of time where things move quickly – but you’re not just a passive spectator, no. This is directly related to the seeds you’ve planted, the intentions you’ve set, the clarity you’ve recently won and achieved through direct effort. Remember, especially in these times, it’s the change that you make within that matters the most. Shifts in consciousness and willingness to surrender will change the quality of your work. It becomes less about pushing, and more about working with the flows and natural forces of the Universe. When things feel too fast-moving, get grounded, and return to your core again and again. Let this be your practice for this lunar cycle.

ARIES

Lovers

The choices you make this lunar cycle will have the potential to bring you ever closer to your true self, dear Aries. And these can seem like the most mundane choices ever: do you choose to go out with your friends for drinks, or do you stay to work on your projects when inspiration has finally struck? Do you listen to others’ ‘rational’ arguments, or do you listen to your intuition? Do you trust yourself, or do you choose to do what’s ‘logical’ and reasonable, even when it doesn’t feel good? When we make it a point to choose ourselves, this process becomes easier and easier, and will be a self-reinforcing cycle of positivity. The fact is, the way you approach this material world is changing. Where you used to act on pure impulse, you now act with more consideration. Where you used to hold yourself back due to fear and insecurity, you now let yourself try and experiment without judgement. This represents huge growth! From this place of wholeness, your creative process will flow so much smoothly and easily. Prepare to amaze yourself by how your work will evolve in leaps and bounds this lunar cycle.

TAURUS

Star

Finally, some beautiful respite and rejuvenation is on the way, and you may already be feeling it. Truth is, you have been through an initiation of a sort, and you are now being reborn, yet another one in a series of rebirths that we’re all constantly being guided through these days! The work you’ve done on consciously surrendering, shedding and reworking some of your most firmly held beliefs and fears are now bearing their fruit. You will be offered a period of respite where you will feel more at home in your skin than ever, and where you feel strong, confident and ready for the next phases of your transformation. This is a phase where you will no longer feel like you need external validation: what you do flows from a place of strength and alignment within you, blessing yourself and the world around you. So do something for yourself this month to nurture yourself: create a ritual to mark your growth, do something symbolic to commemorate your evolution. It’s also an auspicious sign of a profound healing that you’ve gone through – your ancestors’ experiences need not be your own. You are free to carve out your own story and triumph in new ways.

GEMINI

Empress

You’ve just been feeling so FERTILE lately – there’s no other word for it. Rich in ideas, creativity, life, joy – it’s all been flowing to you as a result of all these choices you’ve been making to affirm yourself and your worth. This lunar cycle, all you’re being asked to do is to enjoy the fruits of your labor even more deeply, to truly savor them and allow yourself the pleasure of reveling in your human experience. A key aspect of this is to remember that you can actually feel joy every day – it’s not something to be reserved for weekends or off days! Infusing joy and making it a priority in every aspect of your life is the gift you’re being offered this month, and this may mean overturning some traditional ideas about work, and how you’re ‘supposed’ to earn your money or make a living in this life time. Free time to dream and create may ultimately be worth more than the few extra dollars you make working overtime – this month, whenever you’re asked to make any kind of decision around the trade-offs in your life, remember to factor in pleasure, enjoyment, relaxation… You’re now operating in the new paradigm, and all you have to do is allow it to happen by creating a space where you thrive, happily and without outmoded ideas about how it’s all ‘supposed’ to look.

CANCER

6 of Pentacles

These days, you are growing in consciousness about how much energy you really lend to others in your life – and how that is essential to your wellbeing. You love your tribe, you are uplifted by being around people you love, and yet, you often neglect to give to yourself what you often give to others. This lunar cycle, you will have the opportunity to correct any imbalances and gain deeper insight into how and why you give to others. Giving can sometimes be exalted as a selfless act, but when it comes from a place of wanting to control or exert power, this action becomes subverted and loses its true divine power. Do you give to others because it gives you a sense of security? Or some other motivation you may have hidden from yourself? Know that no other human can give you the sense of security that you crave – you must learn to cultivate it within yourself. And you already have all the tools to do so! This also means that you must allow yourself to receive help and guidance, and truly allow yourself to be vulnerable and open enough to do so. Heavy stuff, huh? Take it one step at a time, dear Cancer. If anything, this lunar cycle is really meant to allow you to develop a deeper sense of trust, within yourself, and with the Divine. From there you will see that things will flow, without needing to micromanage your relationships.

LEO

Daughter of Wands

This lunar cycle, your playful, creative nature comes into play, full force. This may be good news for you, especially if you’ve been experiencing a slump lately, or if you’ve been withdrawing or hibernating. You’re learning to observe your own energetic cycles – what lights you up, what shuts you down, and what burns you out. As you increasingly see and respect your own body and its signals, you find it much easier to trust its cues and to rest when you need to, and work when you feel motivated or inspired to do so. This is part of a longer process of you learning how to trust yourself, outside of any larger societal forces or peer pressure you may feel. And it’s been so liberating! While it may have been painful to see certain friends or acquaintances fall away, you’re also giving yourself the gift of feeling more at home in your skin, creative and playful than ever before. This also represents the beginning of a phase of you being more willing to take risks and as well as face challenges with more confidence and grace. You’ve come such a long way dear Leo, and it’s really beautiful to see.

VIRGO

Son of Cups

Joy, savoring the good stuff in life, detaching from the analytical brain – I love this message for you, dear Virgo because there’s nothing more soothing for your soul! Your sharp mind has been on overdrive for this first part of the year, and you’re finally allowed a bit of downtime. You may have been experiencing burnout, a sense of discontent and even unhappiness or resentment creeping in a little bit – all signs of an intellect on overdrive. Remember that while your mind is one of the best tools you have, that’s all it really is – one part of your beautiful whole. Don’t let it run you – you’re ultimately in charge of your mind, where it goes, and what it focuses on … In our society, where the intellect is often prized and emphasized, it takes conscious effort to unplug and tap into the other parts of you – your emotional, physical, and sensual self. It’s time to let the much neglected parts of you out to play, while detaching from so many roles that you tend to take on without complaint. In fact, this is the start of a major overhaul of your working habits: detaching from martyrdom energy, over-exerting yourself… And allowing yourself to not always be the one who knows, or corrects, or notices all the time. Meditation, listening to music, chakra cleansing, being near bodies of water will all be really beneficial for you this cycle. Remember, no project or work endeavor is worth it if you’re just miserable! Take care of you, and the rest will take care of itself, I promise. Trust yourself.

LIBRA

Strength

What happens when the mental constructs you use to prop up your world, all fall away, at the same time? You discover your strength, that’s what. And even more than that, you discover that… you’re still perfectly fine. You’re doing great. That your value and your worth come from a far deeper place than status, identity, skin-deep, superficial stuff. This lunar cycle, be prepared for a deep shedding, all the way up to the lunar eclipse in July. It’s a profound time for you when you will be able to see beyond the limiting thoughts and preconceptions that you often wrap around yourself, giving you a sense of security, but can also stifle your free spirit and creativity. It’s a time when you discover truly: You are not your thoughts. You are not your feelings. Strength this month comes from being able to bear witness to your feelings without being unduly swept away by them; from observing yet not judging your experiences; from refraining instead of reacting immediately. All of this will lead you to a place where you can then make choices that are aligned with your highest goals more easily, instead of being pulled a million directions by all the different people who fill up your busy social calendar.

SCORPIO

Ace of Pentacles

This is the month where the opportunities you’ve been waiting for will come your way – whether it’s a new job opportunity, an idea, a new life-giving pattern, money – there will be a tangible manifestation of the things that will help you move along on your path. These are blessings, even if they may not initially look like what you thought they might look like, or imagined yourself ever needing. And yet, here they are! The Universe loves to surprise us, so let it, dear Scorpio. The best things in life are absolutely unplanned and this is hard for those of us who enjoy defining our realities to accept. To lay the ground to make these opportunities work best for you, know that you’re not being rewarded for ‘good’ behavior, just as you weren’t being punished for ‘bad’ behavior when things seemingly weren’t going your way. Things happen to move you further along on your soul journey, to learn lessons, to discover who you are and who you’re here to become, and ultimately, to experience your life with more joy.  Observe these blessings as just another turn in the wheel – things come together, and then fall apart all the time. There’s no need to cling or hoard: invest this growth energy in yourself and your vision for a happier, relaxed, version of you.

SAGITTARIUS

Priestess of Swords

Trust in your critical judgements this month, dear Sagittarius. Your classic warmth and outgoing nature may be tempered a little as you withdraw to take stock of the first half of the year, plan for your steps ahead, and analytically look at the relationships and career steps you’ve been taking thus far. There’s also a sense of a wounding recently, with regards to feeling like you’ve been taken for granted by loved ones recently, as well as by others who have made the fatal mistake of misunderstanding or trying to manipulate your open and unassuming personality. Isn’t it a trip when people assume that you’re somehow weaker just because you believe in the inherent goodness of human nature?! They are the naïve ones – not you. Because you see so clearly into humanity, you see all its potential for goodness, and you hold its light in your heart. That is hard work. But you are uniquely designed to do this work… It’s just time to use your intellect instead of your heart in this lunar cycle, and to make accurate assessments of how you may need to reshuffle the amount of time you spend around certain people and the influence they have over you. Sharpen your vision this month and trust in what you observe – especially when people repeatedly show you who they really are.

CAPRICORN

High Priestess

Dear Capricorn, this slippery eel of a year has been teaching you to trust your intuition and not freak out when things don’t go according to plan. And it hasn’t been an easy road, because you’re out of your comfort zone so often, you can’t even see where it is any longer. And yet, this represents such a huge growth and expansion on your part, as you become increasingly used to allowing your drive and creativity to come from a more joyful, fun-loving part of you. This lunar cycle, you’re being asked to trust what’s coming from your gut rather than the things you tend to see out there in the material world. First off – cutting down on your consumption of news media may be a good idea. If the things you’re reading are making you anxious and getting you into a state of analysis paralysis, you’re far better off doing something soothing to your soul instead. Any time the world becomes too much, you’re in a bad mood, or you come up against a sticky situation at work, it’s best to take a step back and get into a meditative space. That’s because your intuitive guidance will be coming through especially strongly this month, and you want to allow it space to reach you! Grounding activities like restorative yoga and moving meditation will be especially beneficial for you. You don’t have to sit still if you don’t want to, but making sure your mind has time to slow down and detach from intellectualizing everything will be keys to a productive, regenerating month.

AQUARIUS

5 of Pentacles

This cycle, you’re going all in when it comes to your dreams – no half-assing it. And this is really a great thing, because you’re sensing that your dreams are about to become reality – opportunities have been presenting themselves, left and right, and it’s no longer just a distant fantasy. It’s all becoming tangible and real to you, and to firmly bring these dreams down into reality, it does take some elbow grease. “Where you are is not who you are” is a mantra that will serve you this cycle – keeping your eyes to the horizon while you apply effort in the present moment will be the best way to ride this energy. If fears and anxieties ever crop up, look at them squarely in the eye and tell them “I have no time for you” and channel that energy into consistent effort instead. This may take an overhaul of some of your habits and becoming more mindful about the things and media you consume and spend time on. To decide if it’s something worth spending your time on, ask: “Does this serve my highest goals and purpose?” Everything you do matters –  and once you get through this cycle, you will see many beautiful rewards blossom in late summer and into the fall.

PISCES

Father of Wands, reversed

Recently, your will to create is often thwarted by a growing sense of unease and discomfort around why you’re doing what you do… This represents a deeper level of consciousness and knowingness that’s developing within you, dear one. You’re hearing the call to create from a place that’s aligned with your intuition. Often, you keep many of your intuitive truths at bay because of a deep-seated fear of where it may lead you. Your brain tells you that you may end up broke, homeless, or worse – dramatic scenarios the ego cooks up in order to scare you back into line. And yet, you’re now ready to break free from these binds. Your masculine side is meant to ideally, act on behalf of your feminine – your free-flowing, creative, and fun-loving side. Each time you experience doubts or uncertainties this coming lunar cycle, receive it as a kind of feedback from your intuition that you’re meant to pause and probe a little deeper. Stop and take into account whether some of the things you’ve accepted as just ‘business as usual’ are truly acceptable to you. See if you are able to act differently as a result of taking time out to pause and reconsider. You’re gaining strength and confidence in being able to act from an aligned place from within you, and this is a wonderful thing to behold.

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The Invitation of Heartbreak

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Heartbreak invites us back to the drawing board. It reminds us of the possibilities that lie within romantic relationships:

Being together not based on any kind of need or lack, but a coming together in partnership, in support of each other’s growth, companionship, mutual respect and admiration of each other’s wholeness …

It’s no mean feat, it’s a process, it’s a journey, it takes time – but it is possible.

One of the reasons why this ideal is hard:

It’s hard because we’ve been fed too many seductive illusions, and it’s hard to give them up.

We are attached to the fantasy that someone is going to save us from our lives.

We don’t want to give up the hope that someone else is going to make it all feel better, to reassure us that we will wake up to the lives of our dreams, that we are all going to be okay. We want someone to take away our doubts, our insecurities, our uncertainties, our vulnerable, scary feelings. We want someone to wrap it all up in a bow and keep reassuring us day after day, that it’s going to be okay.

We hope that someone else will fill up our emptiness, will patch up our loneliness, will quieten down the big, swooping questioning feelings deep inside, that keep asking of us: “Will you see us now? Will you hear us? Will you answer us?”

And as long as we keep ignoring the gnawing feelings inside, we will keep running up against the heat of burning disappointments, of heart break, of conflict, of separation, of alienation. We will meet and discard lovers one by one. We will place huge hopes on them and be crushed by our disappointment. We will see their light and attempt to warm our hands by it, neglecting our own homes and hearths.

We will insist on controlling everyone around us – our lovers, our friends, our families, every single person we meet – so that they will give us the sense of safety and security we desire. We will not understand their desires to express themselves as who they are. We will exhaust ourselves and run ourselves down in the process of preserving who and what we think we are, ignoring every single sign post that Love has left for us. “Slow down – sit with me. Do not abandon me. I am here.”

And as long as we do not completely own our feelings – and insist on blaming them on the other; as long as we do not start to learn to hold our feelings and when necessary, examine them with a compassionate lens, our heartbreaks will happen on loop, nudging us ever closer to the space where we have to sit, naked and unafraid, with ourselves… without a single illusion to blur our visions and intoxicate our imaginations.

And accept the truth: no one else is coming to make it all okay.

The Sacred Marriage: Your Union with Yourself

What will you do then with your broken heart? What will you do with your feelings of emptiness? What will you do with all your fragile hopes and dreams? What will you do with the voice you’ve choked down in the hopes that your silence will help maintain the peace, will preserve your cocoon, will make everything stay the same?

And this is when the invitation comes: Will you stop running away? Will you stay with yourself, and not seek out another, simply to take those feelings of loneliness away?

Do not fear accepting the invitation, because even as you make the pledge to never abandon yourself again in the hopes of finding love outside of you, you will never be alone. You will have companions on your path. You will have helpers, guides, acquaintances, teachers, friends, strangers all colluding to ensure you get absolutely what you need. As long as you are bravely treading on the path, shedding illusions one by one, you will have absolutely everything you need to meet and guide you.

But first, you have to be willing to give up the illusions that are wrapped around the notions of romantic love.

Will you accept the invitation?


 

My loves, attachment issues are forged in childhood. Any time we rub up against something that touches a sore spot within our relationships, we are reminded… Of when we were not seen, heard, wanted, loved, the way we needed to be. Each time we are reminded, we have to see, hear, want and love ourselves more. We have to tend and nurture. We have to hold and examine. We can do it alone or in the company of a present and attuned other (like a good therapist). I read such a great line recently, and it said: “It is not possible for us (as adults) to be abandoned, only left. We can’t be engulfed, only crowded.”

Meaning that each time we feel abandoned or engulfed as adults, our sensitive bodies are  only reminding us of the times we felt that way as powerless children, calling out to us to hold and heal these systems. When we repair and heal our systems, relationships will feel so different: we will hold, not cling; nurture, not need; see and appreciate quirks and differences, not harshly condemn and censure; communicate hurts and learn to repair ruptures without exploding. The stable home we hold within ourselves will be reflected in the union we share with the other. There is no other way, yet there are so many ways to get to the same outcome. It all starts with sitting with yourself, learning to hold, accept, and gaze at yourself with love and self-compassion. For those who have experienced trauma – and there are many kinds of trauma in our often violent society – this can be even more challenging. I urge those who have gone through the experience of trauma to not minimize your experience, to seek help, to reach out.

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How to Surrender (Because These Are Some Crazy Times)

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These days it’s important to surrender. Why? We’re all being upgraded right now for lives that allow for more joy, less baggage – and it’s full on, constant and pretty intense some days. Seriously, we are just these computer programs due for our next OS update, except these OS updates come every couple of days or weeks now.

The other reason why it’s important to surrender is because we have to allow the Universe to co-create with us to bring about our intentions and our soul purpose more gracefully. Like that struggling, pushing, forcing shit? It’s coming to an end. In order to step away from the dominant masculine way of doing things, we actually have to change the way we approach our lives, and that means surrendering as a way of life. Surrendering moment to moment.

If you’re anything like me, then you would probably find this sentiment to be exceedingly painful on some level. Surrender? NO WAY. I have to take care of everything, it’s all down to me, how can I be sure it will be done just right if I DON’T DO IT ALL BY MYSELF? Trust me, I know. I constantly tend to get ahead of myself because I fear things will not turn out the way I want it to. The assumption here is that what I want is somehow better than what the Universe wills  – and I have been proven wrong again and again that what I want is pitifully less amazing than what tends to unfold when I allow, and surrender to the will and flow of the Universe. (I could give you a dozen examples but first you need to have a day or two to listen to this.)

If you get stuck on the concept of surrendering alone though, it may be helpful to just pause here for a bit, and take some time to explore your resistance. What’s holding you back? What’s a core belief that stops you from doing so? Forcing yourself to surrender will defeat the purpose of surrendering, so ease into it… (Sometimes life will force you to surrender though, so that’s another story… But at this moment, probe gently into your resistance and see what comes up.)

So, on to surrendering…

The way you surrender will have to depend on how you usually tend to hold on to and grip on to things.

For example, I notice that I tend to hold my breath when I’m stressed and trying to control a particular outcome. My body tenses up and I find myself holding it still in a particular position. Once I notice this, I try to breathe deeply once again to allow air back into my body. Noticing your posture is also another way of surrendering. By simply un-tensing your body, you allow it to simply be again.

And honestly that’s what surrendering is all about – just being.

The breath brings liberation – no stale air is allowed to be in your body for long. When you breathe, it’s not possible to hold your breath for longer than a couple of minutes… You have to let it go. You have to give in to your body’s natural rhythms. That is a form of surrender that you already do – every single moment of every single day.

Which means that when you’re asked to surrender – it’s just a matter of doing it more deeply, consciously, mindfully. Because you’re already doing it!

Surrender as a bodily sensation and a physical experience

There are a ton of resources out there that encourage surrendering in different ways, e.g. writing down the thoughts that you want to surrender or repeating a certain affirmation. After some experimentation, I find that the act of surrendering is much more effective for me when my mind is aligned with my body – this is probably a big duh moment for many of you, but for me, someone who’s naturally intellectually-oriented, this took me quite a while to figure out! I thought that since I used to obsess quite a bit, surrendering was just a matter of surrendering those thoughts only.

However, mind-body alignment is everything when it comes to surrendering.

Above all, surrender requires a sense of trust and safety. Our bodies mediate this feeling for us – if our bodies don’t physically feel safe, secure and protected, it’s tough to truly surrender. We will be unconsciously guarding ourselves from attacks or intrusion at all times, and this puts the body on fight or flight mode. Our thoughts will then naturally become tense, anxious or obsessive. There’s then a circular causality: thoughts feeding sensations, and sensations feeding thoughts.

People who have been through trauma of any kind often find their bodies to be in constant hyper vigilance. If this is you, it’s okay. Your body is trying to protect you. And I highly recommend the book The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. and being super gentle with yourself in this process. Don’t allow your desire to become more ‘spiritual’ or other new age nonsense mess with your healing process… You have to take care of you, first. There is nothing more spiritual than that.

Baby steps to surrendering… 

  1. Notice where you are holding on to tension. Do a body scan meditation – where are you clenching, straining, tensing, or holding? Do you tend to hold on to your breath?
  2. Once you notice it, you could either relax it directly, or clench on to it tighter before relaxing it. You can also look up meditation videos for progressive muscle relaxation to guide you along.
  3. Now notice which thought tends to be on loop in your mind. What’s an outcome you are trying to make happen? What do you absolutely need in your life right this moment? Picture your brain unclenching from that thought and breathe out at the same time. Feel your body relax as your mind releases the thought.
  4. Repeat as necessary, as often as possible.
  5. Take care of your duties, do what you need to do.

The underlying, core belief that drives the act of surrender is this: The Universe will take care of it, and the outcome will always be for my greatest good (even if it doesn’t turn out the way I think it should!)

This is just one of many ways, and is just one method I’m sharing as someone who thought she had it ALL under control. (lol) Certain yoga poses e.g. child’s pose also facilitates the act of surrender; sitting in nature and being awed by its beauty; deep meditation, etc can all be helpful. What’s most important is that you notice your own way of holding on – and explore what helps you to let go.

One final caveat – if you truly have difficulty with the concept of surrendering, I would point you in the direction of looking up first and second chakra issues. Often, our inability to feel secure, trust and let go tend to come from early childhood issues, which also correspond to lower chakra issues. (And who doesn’t have some kind of early childhood issues to look into, especially if you’re in your twenties right now and only starting to process and look back as an adult on your early years?)

So while others may make it sound easy – sometimes the simplest things are really the toughest things. Surrendering is simple, but it’s not easy at all… Especially given the many ways we are raised and taught. So if you find this to be really difficult, then congratulations!!! You’re a human being. Please stop being hard on yourself. The fact that you even want to start is wonderful – think of just how many people go through life forcing and pushing and bullying, and you can imagine just how rare it is that you are attempting something so different from what we were all taught.

That said, I hope you find it a little easier to connect with the concept of surrendering now, and may the Universe bring you all its amazing, wonderful gifts in the process.

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Wisdom Scopes Lunar Cycle May 15 – June 12, 2018

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ARIES

10 of WANDS, reversed

Dear Aries, it’s time to let go of the steering wheel for a minute and let the Universe take the lead. It’s been trying to get your attention, but it has also been waiting patiently while you’ve tried all the tricks in your bag to get things looking the way you want them to. Truth is, anything that hasn’t been working isn’t at all because you’ve made a mistake or done something wrong – rather, it’s because you’re meant to do things in a whole new, different way. Old ways don’t work anymore. New ways may mean waiting to see what your intuition tells you, pausing to rest and play, taking it one step at a time, not planning too far ahead, paying attention to the present moment… Your fire burns so bright, and often this leads to exhaustion or burn out if you aren’t careful. This new way of working means you work WITH the Universe in partnership, directing your fire when you get gut feelings to do so. Let it help you. Allow it to get to you by making room for it. This cycle, your down times will be the best time to connect with what’s larger than you or I. Disconnect from social media and IRL social life to allow yourself space to connect with  what’s essential within you.

TAURUS

6 of Cups, reversed

At this moment, it may be hard for you to believe in the best in people, or to have faith in your path. And no one can blame you, because life has been testing you for a minute! There is a call here to return to the innocence of childhood where the present moment was all you had – think back to a time where you weren’t actively striving or pushing towards something. Try to recall if there was ever a time when you trusted in always being able to get what you need, without fear or anxiety. Because that is exactly what life is trying to show you – that you will always have what you need – maybe not in the exact ways you envision them, but they will show up. You are being taken care of, and any recent detours were most likely ways to protect you from something that may not be the best for you down the line. Things aren’t what they seem this month, and it’s important not to overreact in the moment. Allow them to unfold and take time out to observe before rushing to conclusions.

GEMINI

6 of Swords

It’s funny what time and some perspective can offer us, and for you, there is a deep healing taking place in the ways you’ve been allowing yourself space to simply be. Recently, you may have left a job, situation, or relationship that left you questioning who you are and even losing sight of some essential piece of yourself. That was a scary and desolate place to be, yet you’ve been so resilient and brave, taking actions to put yourself back in a place where you feel much more supported and validated, even if that only source of support lay in your own faith and trust in yourself. This month will see these actions paying off, and you’ll be feeling a brand new burst of energy to explore and discover new opportunities and gifts that are out there, waiting for you. Your journey is one that is testament to the ways the Universe moves in leaps and bounds to meet you whenever you take one step towards your true self, and living a heart-based life. Enjoy this sweet time, dear one, and continue giving yourself permission to break away from old ideas of yourself. You’re blossoming as you follow the sun of your own heart and light.

CANCER

5 of SWORDS

The more you surrender, the noisier your mind gets. Every step you take towards the unknown, the more your ego wants to pull you back and get back in line. It’s funny how that works, right? It’s not funny when you’re experiencing it though, dear Cancer, and I can feel how much this tension causes you much frustration and confusion. This cycle, it’s time to get intimate with the workings of your mind. Know that it’s the job of the mind to protest, give you plentiful options, doubts, complaints and rebuttals. Know that it’s your job to decide which ones to listen to and which to discard. And when all else fails, know that you do not have to act on anything that your mind says at all. See its noise as the fact that you have been actually so diligently working on following your heart and living in a more embodied way. Ways of being learnt through years of solely intellectual, mind-based education won’t be disappearing overnight, you know?! Above all, you are not your thoughts. Be patient with the ways it communicates with you, and learn to find some humor in the things it chooses to focus on and obsess over. See if you can find some spaciousness between those thoughts… be playful and find freedom in the ability to pause before you choose to speak or act.

LEO

Devil

Your motivation and enthusiasm has been coming back in recent times, and with it, lots of grand plans, goals and dreams. And that’s all wonderful! A lot of these ideas are worth noting. In fact, writing them down as they come to you will be useful. Yet, there’s a note of caution: there’s a sense that you’ve not been giving your intuition as much air time recently. Making time to slow down and listening to your inner voice is so important in these coming months. Emotionally, there may have been some incidents that have gotten you disheartened and disillusioned recently. This world is rough for those of us want to trust in the light of others, because we often have ample opportunity to witness the darkness instead. And yet this is the chance to realize that what we see in others is a reflection of ourselves. The more disheartened and difficult it is to believe in the good of others, the more important it is to believe in the good within yourself, first and foremost. That you have an inextinguishable light within, and you are able to make a choice with regards to the place you want to act from on a daily basis. And in fact, getting to know and understand that shadow will always come with the light can help you to not take either so personally – that it’s all a part of the duality of this 3D world… Tend to your hurt places, and know that your heart was made to withstand these paradoxes. You are here to act as a beacon for others in these times.

VIRGO

2 of Pentacles

First of all, the best thing about this coming cycle is that your sense of humor and fun is coming back after a not-so-brief hiatus. Things have felt so serious for a while now, and you were coping with some heavy things that took up much of your time and energy. The Universe was asking you to take a good look at some of the stuff you keep hidden in your bottom drawers, and if you did not shy away from your most difficult feelings, you are much stronger for it now. As this new cycle starts, a shift can occur where you are trusting more deeply in the Universe. You realize the ease that comes with not taking everything oh-so-seriously. You allow people to just be. You realize you don’t always need to get the last word. You prioritize your well-being over needing to be right. And with this, you are now able to see possibilities where there used to be none. You refuse to let change throw you. Opportunities come your way and you even manage to have fun with them! For sensitive souls, be aware of overstimulation and make sure you get enough downtime during this high-energy period. Know that you have all you need to move your projects forward this month. Stay focused on your goals and don’t let random elements distract you.

LIBRA

Hanged One

Dear Libra, the answers for you this month will come in your not-so-favorite way: chilling and hanging out in the limbo of not knowing. While everyone will be receiving different signals to stop or go, yours is found in the sweet spot of chopping wood, carrying water – keeping up with your usual day to day activities and receiving the inspiration that comes in those mundane moments. This is yet another opportunity for you to harness your energy; instead of dissipating them in social activities that often pack your calendar, carve out some free time for yourself, and resist the urge to make snap decisions or judgements. The time is not yet ripe to do so. That’s because there are some big planetary alignments that are still making their own sweet way in the cosmos, and you play a vital role in them. Instead of seeing yourself as being held back, see this as time to rest, relax, replenish your energy, dream, have fun, reboot your daily habits and routines to make sure they support you. You will know when it’s time to act.

SCORPIO

Devil

The themes of control and power have always been overarching motifs in your life, so you must be familiar with some of the ways these forces have manifested for you by now. Whether it comes to how you wield it, your relationship with it, or how much power you perceive yourself to have, these themes go hand in hand with the vulnerability that comes with feeling as deeply as you do, and how safe you feel walking around in this world as sensitive as you are. It’s a tension that often leads to much frustration for you – yet there’s no one better equipped to wrestle with these themes than you are. This cycle, it may be helpful for you to look at some of the ways you require others to play by certain roles and rules – especially those that are unspoken. Know that your true sense of power and control cannot come from any earthly source – it comes from your relationship to the Divine, however you choose to define it. When you are secure in your power, no matter the shifting external conditions and circumstances, you will have that sense of safety that you need such that you will no longer require someone to play by your rules in order for you to feel safe. You will be free – and so will they. Take the first step of understanding when, why, and how you assert your will, dear Scorpio.

SAGITTARIUS

Emperor

This year is all about Serious Business for you, in all aspects of your life. This can mean a lot of the stuff you never really paid too much attention to – whether it’s your finances, your home life, your daily routines and habits – are now at the forefront of your consciousness. All of this is with the knowledge that taking care of these boring bits will ensure that you have the security you need to reach high, far and wide – your forte. This coming cycle, focus on what makes you FEEL strong – does it mean taking care of business when others want you to go out to play? Or does it mean taking time to unwind so that you have more energy for the next leg of the journey? This can be an intuitive process, and I encourage you to stay present with every decision. Don’t feel the need to build structures based on what works for others – build ones that work for you and your unique needs. This means embracing all of who you are, without feeling like anything about you is ‘wrong’ or too much of anything. For example, if you freelance and work from home, this could mean working hours that follow your natural rhythm instead of rigidly sticking to a fixed schedule every single day (if you are fortunate enough to do so, of course!)

CAPRICORN

3 of Swords, reversed

This coming cycle offers you the opportunity to untangle yourself from some of your deepest hurts. There have been times in your past when your heartaches caused you to make decisions and take certain paths, influencing everything from career decisions to relationship choices. You may be faced with situations that are echoes of these past scenarios… and yet now you will see that so much has changed. You no longer react the same way, you have a certain detachment. You have allowed yourself to heal, gain strength and become wiser. You will also be able to notice any residual sore spots – and make your peace with them. Do not be afraid to go back into these depths for the sake of healing – feeling those old stuck emotions fully will allow you to release them. It’s not even necessary to truly understand the whys and the hows of those old scenarios any longer… Just know that you no longer need to live by outmoded scripts that do not reflect the truth of who you are. All of this is for the purpose of bringing you closer to that lightness and joyousness that you want to embody. Be willing to lose baggage, dear Capricorn. Travel light.

AQUARIUS

4 of Discs

There’s an element of buckling down and nurturing your projects this month, dear Aquarius. The past few months have been a whirlwind of social engagements and changes for you, and it’s now time to recover, regenerate, and reserve your energies for the things you cherish and need to tend to. Over the next few months, you’ll be transitioning into a role that calls for you to have a laser focus on your dreams and goals. This is the perfect time to get right within yourself, and to identify what your superpowers are, and the strengths you bring to the table. Do this work so that you know the value you bring to others, especially because you’ll soon be moving into arenas where you’ll be called on to stand firm in your worth. At the same time, it’s important to realize that the Source that nourishes you is infinite – allow yourself to relax and trust that if you continue working on your skills, they will grow in ways that will surprise you and bring you opportunities you never dreamed of. There is no need to worry that it will all somehow go away. There’s a message here to look at your concepts of give and take, and in the flow of resources in your life. Admitting that you don’t always have control will paradoxically allow you to go with the flow, and get in touch with the feelings of always being supported.

PISCES

Magician

I get a sense that this new moon has somehow revealed to you a once-hidden facet of how you move and work in this world, and has shown you whose opinions tend to sway you. There’s been a realization that perhaps all these other people don’t actually know what’s best for you, and that you making a different choice from them doesn’t mean anyone’s choice is wrong. You are taking more of your power back, and feeling a dose of divine inspiration to boot. In this coming cycle, the more you are aligned in body, mind and spirit, the more you mindfully take on tasks and tackle them because you truly believe in them – despite what anyone else says – the more you will get familiar with standing in your power authentically. You, more than any other sign, know the meaning of fake it till you make it. You are excellent at putting yourself out there, experimenting and making sense of things along the way. But this time around, the process is turned on its head for you… Now, with a new sense of confidence, you tackle things because there’s an inner drive, without feeling the need to impress anyone. What’s more important is that you feel right and aligned within yourself. And this changes everything and opens up so many more possibilities for you. What would you do if you knew that you couldn’t fail?

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Your April 2018 Wisdom Scopes

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What if going with what you know is right for you means going against the flow of everyone else around you? We’re all being asked to follow the path of our hearts, and this is rarely easy. You probably already have a flavor of what this year is asking of you, and it looks like some good, honest, grounded hard work. The truth is, we are all moving towards building a better world. A better world that flies in the face of all that is already established: corrupt systems, indifference, unethical behaviors. Your choices, your actions, thoughts and words do matter. So much. Lead the charge by doing what matters most to you in this time. Hang on to what you know you’re here for. Consistent effort is important because so much of it is about breaking through heavy, dense habits that have kept you down before.

ARIES

Ace of Wands

The breakthrough you are waiting for will arrive this month, and you have to ready yourself to catch it and make the most of it. It may sneak up on you in the form of a new insight or idea, fresh off the heels of you being able to let go of some old goal or idea that just wasn’t working. You will start to see that the more you are able to sieve through and sort out what works and what doesn’t, and being willing to challenge your assumptions and preconceptions about something, the more you are able to gain new insight and inspiration. The truth is, your stream of inspiration is infinite – you never have to worry about running out of them! Letting go of an idea doesn’t mean you won’t ever get another one. Who you are is so much bigger that who you think you are. When penetrating insights come, be sure to catch them by writing them down. You don’t have to act on them immediately. Just know that when you allow yourself more mental flexibility, staying open to trusted others’ wisdom and experience, you will get where you want to go with a lot more ease.

TAURUS

8 of Cups

Another layer of illusions is shed this month, dear Taurus. It’s painful when you allow yourself to let go of things you once thought to be true. In a way, it was a survival mechanism. You had to believe in certain things in order to get through painful moments. Now that you are healing, your strength has built up the point where you are able to look at illusions squarely in the eye and to truly see through them. Your strength has allowed you to get this far, and closer and closer to your true self. Remember: You can never lose anything that is true to you. Anything lost are simply untruths, falsehoods, programming placed upon you by others… See this time as a shedding of projects, people, places and things from a time when you made decisions out of insecurity and uncertainty of your self-worth. What will rise from these ashes are unshakeable foundations that will see you through into the next decade and beyond. If you knew what was waiting for you, you wouldn’t waste a moment looking back or regretting what was.

GEMINI

Hanged One, reversed

A practical guide to surrendering: allowing yourself to feel the feelings that arise when someone tells you to ‘surrender’. Check in with yourself: do you feel impatience, exasperation, resignation, annoyance, bemusement, anger when someone or something slows you down, or when you are in a state of limbo? Do you then struggle against it, getting more annoyed by the moment? Whatever it is, it’s really all okay. Not knowing what lies beyond can be such a frustrating feeling. Hanging out in uncertainty is never peaceful, at least not at first. The good news is that it does get easier. April asks you to get in touch with how you respond when things aren’t within your control – and to confront the illusion that you somehow have absolute control over anything in your life. This is some deep work, and it’s work that will fundamentally change you, if you consciously grapple with it and allow yourself some patience. In times of doubt and stress, the best thing to do is to do nothing. Step back and see what happens. Tough knots will untie themselves without any intervention from you, and you may get a real sense of how the divine weaves itself in the threads of your life. All you have to do is be willing to allow.

CANCER

8 of Swords

You’ve been working real hard lately at shedding some of the ways you’ve been programmed socially and culturally – and this is not work for the faint hearted. It’s especially confusing when you’re surrounded by people who seem to accept without question the very things you are questioning so hard now. In order to get more clarity, the only way out is through. When the feelings get extra rough, hang tight and try not to be too quick in brushing them aside or burying them under some ‘positive’ feelings. There is no ‘negative’ feeling – a feeling is a feeling. Keep asking why – why does this interaction make me feel this way? Why does this no longer appeal to me? Know that you never need to justify your changes to anybody – especially since you are still in mid-transformation. The beauty of all this inquiry is that it will reveal your own power to you: your beliefs shape your world, and when you change and question your beliefs, everything changes as well. You may not be able to control your external reality, but the ripple effects of changing your internal one is formidable. Have faith in yourself, and in your process. You will come out on the other side, feeling freer than you’ve ever been.

LEO

3 of Swords

Some of your greatest heartbreaks have come from having your trust broken – and realizing that no matter how much you might have wanted something to turn out a certain way, it doesn’t always work out that way. This month comes with a healing, of realizing that when something doesn’t turn out the way you want it to, it doesn’t mean that you are being punished. The Universe is nudging you to move beyond the belief of some kind of cosmic punishment or reward, meted out by some unknown force in the world. It’s about moving beyond victimhood to empowerment. And to do so, you will need to look back at some of the times you felt wronged by someone, or when you feel guilt over something you may or may not have done. This may mean allowing all those feelings to flood over you – but this time, instead of buying into the stories that those feelings stir up, you can change the ending. Change the ending into something empowering, into something that puts you in the position of someone who is loved and loveable, no matter what. Forgive yourself, forgive others, and see yourself through the eyes of the Universe: a soul on its journey, learning, growing through mistakes, and ultimately worthy.

VIRGO

Daughter of Wands, reversed

Uncertainty about the steps ahead have got you slowing down and doubting yourself. Luckily, this is exactly where you’re meant to be at: slowing down, but not necessarily doubting yourself. First of all, check your anxiety levels. Are they high? Always remember to check in first before dashing off to do the first thing you think of. And honestly, your anxiety is a really good sign. Before you let your skepticism take over, it may be helpful to understand your anxiety as a sign that you’ve been moving closer and closer to your heart – because you’re getting in touch with the absolute groundlessness of things. Options open up for you when you resist taking the first knee jerk action to move back onto secure ground. You’ve already realized that what’s secure and safe really are just illusions. To remain in a grounded state this month, take care of practical, material needs. Ground creative projects by breaking them down into daily tasks you incorporate into rituals. Control what’s within your locus of control. Continue taking steps towards pushing against the boundaries of what you currently think is possible. Allow room for surprises. Channel excess energy into exercise and eating well. May should see this energy lifting and you will get a much clearer view of your steps ahead.

LIBRA

10 of Swords

Dear Libra, sometimes it’s really not about you, and I mean that in the best way possible. Sometimes it’s really not about how hard you try or what you do or don’t do – others have their own reasons for doing what they do, and no matter how that might make you feel, you’re simply not in control of it. You can’t control how others live their lives. Don’t beat yourself up any longer, or blame yourself unnecessarily for things that you aren’t even responsible for. But by all means, do take responsibility for these: your own thoughts, feelings, actions and behaviors. By allowing yourself to be and to live in your own full integrity, you’ll find it much easier to allow others to be as well. If you’ve been feeling like you need to have others on a tight leash lately, it may be helpful to inquire deeper into those feelings. Are you trying to get people to behave in a certain way to lend you some kind of security? Or to assure you that there is ‘good’ in the world? We are all asked to move beyond polarity and to practice living in the grey, and good and bad isn’t so easy to discern these days. Focus on your own light and act in alignment with your own values. Let the rest figure themselves out.

SCORPIO

Ace of Pentacles

You’ve been spending the past year building up to this moment. You’ve stepped over a threshold recently into a whole new vista and it’s scary and exciting at the same time. Your creativity has also returned in new ways, and if you are not feeling it yet, then you will start to feel it soon. Make room for this new energy by clearing out the old. Outmoded patterns, thoughts, and habits may need a review and may even need to be discarded completely. If you notice any fears creeping in, welcome them as a normal part of the journey of starting something new. You’re not supposed to feel 100% confident. You’re not supposed to always have it all together. That’s the point of new beginnings! They bring in uncertainty, excitement, opportunity for reinvention and for doing things differently. Slow down and feel into your fears so that you may address them methodically instead of reacting reflexively. You are doing just fine, tell yourself so and it will make all the difference in how you stride into the great new unknown.

SAGITTARIUS

2 of Swords

You can only keep your balance this month by keeping out what’s not helpful or nurturing for you, dear Sagittarius. The truth is you have been growing so rapidly, and like a delicate seedling that’s just sprouting, you are nurturing a new resolve for a direction you’re walking towards in your life. It’s a vulnerable phase and even though you want to beat on your own drum and invite everyone else to join you, take time to consider if this is really the time for it. You can’t afford to let anyone slow your roll, and that really means prioritizing your own priorities and wellbeing. Others can join you when you are truly solid and strong enough to share of yourself – your new insights, learnings and wisdom – freely and widely. This month, having boundaries in terms of looking at who’s taking up your time, energy, thoughts, space and doing an audit of who and what has access to your life will be so helpful. This frees up space for your growth, even if that space has to stay empty for a little while. Give yourself room to breathe and stretch out. You can never lose anything that’s true to you.

CAPRICORN

Empress, Reversed

If you could choose to let go of one onerous task in your life, what would you let go of? Do you sometimes subconsciously gravitate towards the most difficult way to do things because you have somehow associated difficulty with virtue? Perhaps it makes you feel like you’ve truly worked for something and that you put in effort. And that is all well and good – because a lot of the most valuable things in life don’t come easy – but it’s also important to see if there could be a way that’s far less strenuous, uses more of your natural skills and talents, and is actually enjoyable in the process. Life and its paradoxes, eh? There’s no harm in actually enjoying the things that you do… in fact, I would argue that that’s what makes it worthy, if it brings you joy, as well as value to others. Why choose? Slow down and use your senses to discern how you could bring more enjoyment to your daily life, even if it’s as simple as incorporating practices to make the little things more fun: e.g. using your favorite stationery to write notes, dressing in your favorite colors, dressing up for nobody but yourself, taking the longer route to work… Or it could simply mean easing up on the carrot or the stick approach, and make your work process-oriented instead. How do you bring more enjoyment into the process of what you do (instead of just focusing on the end goal)?

AQUARIUS

Shaman of Swords

You’re called upon to be the voice of reason this month, dear Aquarius. We can all count on an Aquarian to keep their cool when all around them is falling into chaos. For April, there’s a lot of brain fog happening as everyone is moving through their own personal drama. You can smell it from a mile away when someone is trying to put their issues on you – so be kind, but be firm. Enforce your boundary in that effortless way of yours. You also have to speak up and tell it like it is when everyone else is hedging or beating around the bush. At the same time, use this time of assessment to go over your goals and refine your strategies. You are able to see through most things at this time to discern if people are trustworthy and truly walking their talk. Be uncompromising when it comes to who you associate with – align with those who have similar values, underneath all the superficial differences, and you will be just fine. You’re truly coming into your own, and you know it.

PISCES

Son of Wands reversed

This month, you’re being asked to get in touch with your need for constant stimulation, dear Pisces. There has always been a restlessness within you to want more, seek for more, see and do more – and this had led you on many great adventures. Sometimes this has led you down a rabbit hole or two, though, and only served to distract you from some of your goals. April will be giving you opportunities in the form of U turns and speed bumps to slow you down and get you more conscious of some of the ways you keep yourself constantly on the go. What’s the feeling that underlies the need to want more? Is there something you are not allowing yourself to fully feel or acknowledge? Only you know the answer. Searching within for clues now will help you stay focused come May when things start moving forward again – doing the work now will help you get a lot more discerning about the things that grab and hold your attention.

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“I don’t need a man, I’m a strong woman”

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“I don’t need a man, I’m a strong woman.”

It’s confusing, right? All the things that women say about not needing a man, about being a ‘strong independent woman’. The message is that strong women should be okay standing alone, should not ‘need’ a relationship. The picture is compelling: A woman, single-handedly, bravely, conquering the world on her own. Not beholden by relationships. Not held down by obligations. Not propping up someone else’s life at the expense of her own.

And yet. In her heart of hearts, she yearns. For that one person. The heart whispers: “I want someone who will understand me and love me for who I am.”

So then there is guilt. If I am a strong woman, then why do I yearn for another?

Because perhaps what you really don’t need or want is a relationship that you’ve seen patterned out by the women who came before you. The relationships that were lopsided, that were hurtful, that were all-consuming, took everything, left nothing. No. You really do not need those relationships.

Because strong does not mean not needing love. Does not mean separate or apart. That is the toxic masculine interpretation of strength.

Perhaps the cry can be changed: “I don’t need a man who hasn’t realized for whatever reason how hurtful and unnecessary living from a wounded place is, how painful it is to live out that life without examining the structures we live within; how restrictive such a relationship feels, how much he takes without giving, how much he assumes without asking.”

Those relationships were fueled by wounds, karmic agreements, misunderstandings, ignorance, defensiveness. Those relationships learned their patterns from generations of heteropatriarchy that came before.

You’re not meant to carry your mother’s burdens with you, my love. You’re not meant to wage her wars. Your choices cannot make up for the ones that she did not, or could not make.

But you can break the cycle. You can break the chains. You can let down your burdens.

“I no longer want to be a victim in this scheme. I want to take back my right to have loving, fulfilling relationships. I will start with the relationship I have with myself.”

Even women already in relationships can feel a defensiveness against their partner if these wounds aren’t addressed. Trust takes a long time. Will he engulf me? Will he overtake my life? What does getting married mean? What does being seen together mean?

The costs are real. The costs that a woman who is unaware of her beauty, power and strength has to bear are real. A woman like that opens herself up to all the hungry men in the world – and there are so, so many of them – divorced from healthy masculinity, who feast on her tender heart to quell their soul-deep, bone-deep hunger.

Your heart is yearning to be proved wrong. You want to know that you can be in a relationship – and actually relate to each other. To engage with each other in a way that is healthy and respectful. To know another.

Being a victim is no longer an option. And swapping it out to be the aggressor – overpowering him first so that he does not overpower you isn’t the answer either.

We must stop repeating and replaying these hurts that we enact on each other.


 

Step one is to know these wounds. To account for them with as much love as you can muster. Name all the ways you have been hurt, you have seen your mother been hurt, you have seen your grandmother been hurt.

Step two is to grieve for all the times no one heard your horror and fear, your disbelief that love could look this way – so different from what you instinctively know. You know what love is like because you came from Love, you are love. To realize that your birthright, of deep and fulfilling love, was not reflected in your early reality is a kind of trauma in itself. It was an experience that led you to believe… Love doesn’t exist. Or that it isn’t real. And over time, slowly but surely, this false belief took the wind out of your sails…

Step three is the slow process of healing. Of giving yourself the love you deserve. How does one do this? By taking time, slowing down, and breathing during the difficult moments. By gravitating towards those who truly know how to love and who have a lot of love to give. To be near where it may feel unfamiliar and strange, but in your heart you know is love and feels right. By doing what lifts your heart into joy, by no longer accepting black-and-white. By trusting that you are meant to live in full color. By removing yourself from sources that drain you, and that continue to pour salt on your wounds.

This is when the alchemy begins. This is when you can allow love to come in. And the rest of the steps will flow according to your own sacred unfolding.

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Your November 2017 Wisdom Scopes

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Breaking free. The binds have been cut loose and yet we are still there, struggling as though they are still tightly coiled around us. As clever, adaptive human beings, we are often able to bend ourselves to fit any situation, no matter how bad it gets. In order to survive – in order to get through situations – we tell ourselves ‘It’s okay. It’s not so bad’. Which is why, even as the wheel turns and the binds come off – and we are free – we don’t quite realize it right away. We linger. We look around in suspicion. We act in ways that feel as though we are still in a straitjacket. November is such a month for many of us – how do we break free? First step is to recognize the bind that you were in before. Take a step out of the box. Observe the box. What were its perimeters, the things you were told when you were in the box, the things you told yourself? Who appreciated you being in the box? Who did it serve? How did it hurt you? Once you are able to name, identify, catalog and review – you are on your way to freedom.

ARIES

Priestess of Swords, Reversed

Is something or someone cramping your style right now, dear Aries? You may feel as though your usual wit and approach to getting things done just don’t seem to be working for you any longer, and this can be really disconcerting! Some people just don’t seem to operate on the same plane as you do: their rules, logic and goals are simply completely different. And that’s all okay. This is also all part of the journey of expansion and growth, where you have to expect the unexpected. When the Universe decides you’re ready for growth, it doesn’t just keep throwing the same things at you! So take your time to observe the new playing field, its new rules and players. Always remember that everything you’ve learned before does have a purpose: you’re simply challenged to find a new way to reapply them now. It’s okay to not know everything right away, so use your powers of observation and trust that you will soon figure out a way.

TAURUS

Priestess of Discs

This month, it’s extra important to get grounded. If you have been feeling floaty, spacey, or out of your body, these are signs for you to consciously get back into a self-care routine and prioritize exercise and eating right. There are scarcity fears floating back up, and the message from the Universe is: you don’t have to buy into these fears any longer! And the more you are able to feel physically safe and secure, the easier it will be to feel into this truth. So take note of your living environment: what makes you feel cozy? What helps you to feel relaxed at the end of the day? It’s also about slowing down enough to allow the rest of you to catch up with all the recent changes – give yourself days where you do nothing but allow your body to process any emotions overlooked in the hustle and bustle of busy days.

GEMINI

3 of Wands

This is such an exciting time for you, where you are thinking of long-range plans and what you’d like to build for the next phase of your life. And this could mean the next 5 to 9 years and beyond: decisions that will affect you permanently. And weirdly enough, this thought doesn’t even freak you out any longer. You’re feeling ready for some radical changes, a much needed breath of fresh air and reinvigorating winds of change to sweep through your life. To help you envision the future, remember to incorporate joy and creativity into your life, to make ample room for relaxation and having the time to just be. Maybe this might mean compromising a little on material comfort, or just prioritizing the changes you’d like to see – not everything will be possible all at once, but it helps to know what speaks most to your heart. You may even want to solicit some feedback from trusted loved ones to give you some perspective you wouldn’t have considered. Sometimes the ones who love us are able to dream bigger than we are able to for ourselves, so allow yourself to broaden your scope of possibility, dear Gemini.

CANCER

4 of Swords

November is a month of stillness and contemplation for you, dear Cancer, after an activity-packed October. You may find that this has been the rhythm of your life recently: where you pull back after a period of time putting yourself out there. This is vital for you to regain your balance and sense of self. Your internal processes affect your outer reality so much more than you think, so it’s always important to get right with yourself mentally and emotionally before you attempt to make any moves in the world. And if you were really honest with yourself, your fatigue may be bone deep at this time. If it’s been so tough trying to figure everything out with your mind alone – I urge you to surrender. Surrender your thoughts, your worries, your fears to the Universe. Lay it all down. And rest. In this stillness, answers will come, solutions will come, clarity will come. Trust in the weaving of the Universe: you are both so much larger and smaller than you think.

LEO

6 of Wands

Riding your way to victory is the theme of the month – and it may be in smaller, less obvious ways, but you will soon feel relief from difficult situations. You are often blazing in enthusiasm and fiery passion for the things that you do, but this year, you’ve been learning how to keep this fire focused and directed. This is why victory for you may simply be about saying ‘No’ without guilt to things you would have happily accepted before, because you’re now being mindful about your plate overflowing. This often cuts down on confusion and hurt feelings in the process – and allows you to pay more attention to the things that matter to you, especially home and family. Family is the bedrock of your life, no matter how you define it, and how far you venture from home… So to harness this month’s energies in the best way, it may be helpful to ask yourself, what do you want to win? What are you willing to do in order to achieve this? Look for long-term over fleeting victories, dear one, and you’re on the right track.

VIRGO

Daughter of Discs

After everything you’ve been through, you find yourself at the beginning again – and this is actually a really good thing. In the past 12 months, the path was often somewhat twisty, threatening, scary and maybe even demoralizing at some points. But you persevered, and you need to give yourself props for that. You bust through barriers. You persisted. Also, this beginning isn’t like being a newborn baby – you now come imbued with skills, experience, and most importantly, an increasingly unshakeable sense of who you are and what you are capable of. At this phase of your journey, you are at a whole new stage of the game. It’s as though the past few years were just training grounds for the level that you’re actually meant to be playing at. This month, the best thing you can do is to pace yourself, and take the long term view. Take breaks if you need to, and don’t be afraid to seek help and ask questions. Others are here to help you the moment you speak up, and ask.

LIBRA

Daughter of Wands

You’ll start seeing options popping up in your life for you: and this simply means that the seeds you’ve planted earlier are started to sprout and flower. Now, the choice is up to you – which one excites you most? Which is the one that promises the most long-term growth? This also heralds a leveling up of sorts, where you are on your way to mastery in the field of your choice. It doesn’t have to be just professional either. Part of this is emotional growth; you’re feeling surer of yourself when it comes to interpersonal interactions and holding your own among your peers and those you look up to. And this is such a beautiful thing! It means that you no longer take yourself so seriously – you take your work seriously, yes, but learning to laugh at yourself can be the most healing thing you do this month. Have some fun and bring some levity to your life, and you’ll light up everyone around you.

SCORPIO

Shaman of Swords

Watch what you say, your words may sting… And if that’s your intention – when asserting your boundaries or pushing back at those who have crossed them, then it’s all good. But if you find that your words have an unintended edge to it, it may be useful to look at the underlying feelings that are driving your words. What have you been directing at others, that are simply just signs of your own unresolved feelings about the situations and events in your life? Did what this person do really warrant that amount of anger and frustration? What have you not been giving yourself a chance to fully feel? Sometimes anger is just a cover up for that scarier and more vulnerable feeling… Sadness. Your sharp intellect and wit have always been tools at your disposal, but more so than ever, you get to wield it with intention and purpose. Dare to use it for the greater good and see if you are able to temper your words with compassion and tenderness, dear Scorpio. Your words are especially powerful right now, choose if you want to hurt or heal.

SAGITTARIUS

Daughter of Swords

This month, you may feel pressured to come up with solutions and to attack everything head-on. And this is usually such an admirable quality of yours – you don’t shy away from challenges, there’s no adventure too big for you to tackle. However, this month, it’s important to pace yourself and to make sure that your eagerness doesn’t overshadow important details. It’s like learning a new way to play the game: instead of making your intentions known right away, it may be a necessity to watch and wait and see what others have planned. This may allow you to sidestep any potential drama that you don’t need to get yourself involved in: things are changing, and many people who are less aware or conscious are acting out in major ways. Protect yourself and keep your calling out of others to a minimum. Keep the long term view in mind and look out for your best interests. When in doubt, think: how does doing this serve the greater good? Is it for a short term ego satisfaction of being right, or does this really serve to change the situation for the better?

CAPRICORN

The Hanged One

It’s time to take your hands off the metaphorical steering wheel and allow someone else (Spirit!) to steer for the time being, dear Capricorn. Depending on how much you’ve been cultivating this relationship with the Universe, your feelings around this may vary. This is a huge season of change, death and rebirth for everyone, and for you in particular, the wheels are turning and things are moving and shifting behind the scenes. This is why it’s important not to take changes for their immediate face value right now, and give things time to settle before reacting, thinking the worst, or investing in something just purely because of its potential. Let things reveal themselves to you before feeling the need to make any snap decisions – and don’t allow others to push you to do so, either. If hanging out in this space feels excruciating for you, don’t worry – most of us go-getters feel the same way too! However, this is always a good opportunity to get in touch with the fact that we are all a larger part of the tapestry of life, and really, so much is out of our control… Let your mind relax and seriously, step away from social media and the news regularly to keep your mental health intact. Take care of yourself and everything else will take care of itself.

AQUARIUS

Ace of Swords, reversed

A new cycle begins for you, but you may have been hitting a few bumps in the road – mentally. Know that new beginnings can be anxiety-provoking, but also that anxiety doesn’t need to rule over you. Watching your responses that arise can be really helpful: do you tend to become perfectionistic, or do you default to certain self-sabotaging habits? Do you lash out at others around you, or do you just tend to withdraw? Mindfully observe yourself doing what you do, and see that these responses don’t have to define you. Take a moment to acknowledge how you feel: put your hand over your heart and say, ‘I know you are anxious, but I will take care of you, and the Universe will take care of you.’ Over time, you will be able to catch yourself spiraling and make the choice to do something nurturing instead. Whether it’s stepping away from the computer to stretch, going for a walk around the block, or even just allowing yourself to forget your responsibilities for a moment, know that you’re re-programming your responses breath by breath. Above all, this beginning is simply the start of yet another stage of growth: you’re more than ready for it. Trust yourself.

PISCES

The Sun

This month will feel so satisfying for you, dear Pisces, especially because you’ve been digging into the depths and doing all that hard work around facing your demons this year. You’ll soon see why all of that was necessary – when the rewards, accolades, and opportunities come your way this November, every bit of effort you’ve put in so far will make so much sense. All of that was meant to help you build a solid foundation in your life, so that old challenges no longer faze you, and you’re ready to receive what’s meant to come your way. And if you’re looking for a change of careers, the next step may become blazingly evident, and you’ll know what to do with certainty. So enjoy your moment in the sun! Socialize, go to places where you’ve never been before, relax, and let your worries go. Part of this new you is really about learning how to enjoy all the other things that are around you even as you focus on achieving your goals – so savor the journey, dear one

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Your October 2017 Wisdom Scopes

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Have you been feeling super serious? It’s not difficult to imagine why you would be feeling that way, especially when you give a damn about anything at all in the world. It seems like everything is imploding all around us, as the world shifts and power structures are tested. However, as counterintuitive as it feels, even as you take action on all that matters to you in this world, it’s important to balance it out with attention to your wellness and taking time for fun. Light-heartedness and joy are healing, and so needed – not just this month, but now and for all the months to come. And again: All is as it should be, as the wheels of change continue to turn. This becomes hard to swallow when reality just doesn’t seem to match up to what we envisioned it to be. But a huge part of it is really about trusting that the blessings will come to you, that it’s okay to relax your tight, sweaty grip and allow the Universe to do its part.

PISCES

Knight of Pentacles

Take care of the little things, and the big things will fall into place, dear Pisces. Look at the rituals, daily practices and routines that hold your life together, and see how you can tweak it so that you feel better supported within it. You’ve been going through such an exciting time of growth, but before taking on more and possibly overwhelming yourself, it’s always good to check what your foundations are looking like, and to take your overall well-being into consideration. Will this extra responsibility help you to grow, or is it something you can say no to, so that you can enjoy more downtime? It’s all about balance and there are no wrong answers, only those that feel right for you. If there has been an increase in your income recently, consider talking to a professional so that you can better manage your resources. Slow down now, so that you can make leaps and bounds later on without fear.

AQUARIUS

Knight of Wands, reversed

You’ve been swimming in brand new waters for a while now, dear Aquarius, and for some of you, since April this year. It’s been a whole slew of changes that have led to your current situation: new opportunities abounding, yet there have also been things and ideas and relationships you’ve had to let go of. It hasn’t always been easy! This month brings you a lot of new opportunities for growth, but it may be a little dizzying if you haven’t had time to regroup and check in with yourself. So take the time at the beginning of the month to take stock of all the recent changes in your life. Remember, emotional realities can take time to catch up to you, so it’s important not to dismiss feelings that come up over things that happened ‘ages ago’. You feel what you feel, and there’s no shame in that! Take care of yourself, and slow down whenever possible, so that you can meet the new in your life with a sense of openness and wonder.

CAPRICORN

3 of Cups

Depending on your current attitudes towards friendship and being around people, this month could prove to be a giant celebration for you, or a leap of faith. Kinship and meeting kindred spirits is illuminated for you this month, because of all the work you’ve been doing on being true to yourself and shining your light brightly. Those who are attracted to your vibration will find you, and it can feel almost too good to be true, especially if you have been feeling as though you had to shed many people in your life in order to stay true to your growth. Take baby steps to remain open, and to meet all who are coming to you with an open heart and mind. How would you know if they are truly sincere? When you feel seen and heard; when you are met with a genuine feeling of connection. Dare to be who you are, and you will inspire others around you to do the same.

SAGITTARIUS

Hanged Man, reversed

‘Restraint’ and ‘less is more’ have never been your favorite key words, but this is what your month may feel like, dear Sagittarius. Sometimes there just is nothing else to do except chop wood, carry water. There’s a lot going on under the surface that simply needs you to show up for your responsibilities and day to day life, without doing anything really ‘special’, even though the general sense of overstimulation recently may have you feeling like you need to rush about and get things done extra quick. However: consistency is a form of superpower, even if it may seem like the most mundane thing ever! If you find yourself in a position where people are counting on you to be a rock, there’s a reason for it – how do you feel being in this position? Rise to the occasion by honoring your daily routines. But do take time out to do some moving meditation to shake off that excess energy – dance, spin class, run, anything that gets you in the zone and out of your thoughts. Connecting with your body will help you to feel more grounded and in the present moment, especially when you’re up against a problem you have no immediate answers for. Building a resistance towards making quick knee jerk judgements and impulsive actions is like training a muscle, daily practice is everything.

SCORPIO

7 of Cups

It’s a dreamy month of possibilities for you, dear Scorpio, and it’s okay to let yourself imagine and envision all that you’d like to make happen in your life. You’ve been at a point of transition recently and you’re excited by all these changes: but what’s for real and what’s just an illusion? Before immediately dismissing your more seemingly far-fetched ideas, they could be useful and even illuminating. Sometimes illusions tell you what you truly want, especially when you have kept these desires hidden from your conscious awareness. Let your fantasies reveal more about yourself to you, and try not to take them too literally. For example, dreaming about running away to a tropical island and selling t-shirts by the beach may simply point to a desire to simplify your life and live at a more leisurely pace. What is it that you’d like more of in your life? However, there’s also a warning here to not to fall in love with potential – you can see the good in everyone, but not everyone may be acting from their highest selves all the time. Err on the side of caution and allow the truth to reveal itself to you before rushing to make any decisions, about people and situations.

LIBRA

8 of Swords

Have you felt limited and frustrated recently? Or feeling like things just haven’t been going your way? The good news is, these are really just feelings, and not reflective of the truth. Sometimes the things you tell yourself and the way you rationalize events in your life only serve to trap you: in self-defeating ideas about yourself and others in your life, about what you think is possible and what life is supposed to look like. You exhaust yourself with all the ‘shoulds’, and all the self-recrimination that you turn round and round in your head, going nowhere. The good news is, once you’ve exhausted yourself, it’s much easier to be at the point where you can let it all go. So dear Libra: let go. Let go of that belief of what you feel others should do, where you think you should be in life right now, how you should be… Go with what brings you joy instead of being so busy trying to control it all, you barely have time to realize all the blessings that are already in your life! Because you already have so much, and you are already being supported, you’re already exactly where you need to be. Let go of those limiting beliefs, and free yourself.  You are enough.

VIRGO

Page of Swords

This year, you’ve been learning about harnessing your masculine energy – the side of you that wants to fight, win and conquer on behalf of your higher ideals. In the process, you are also getting to know which battles are really fighting for. This month, there will be an opportunity to get closer to the truth: that it’s never really about any one particular individual. Feel annoyed at someone’s ignorance? Feeling angered by someone’s bigotry? You’re learning how to direct your razor sharp critical nature primarily at the offending quality, rather than at the person in question. This takes the sting and personal affront out of the equation, leading to your point being heard better by everyone else when it doesn’t feel quite so personal. If you are already at this point, challenge yourself further by questioning the feelings of judgement: can you see even the vilest qualities with some measure of compassion? Can you accept the darkness within human hearts, including your own? Take time to engage in a deeper inquiry that can take you down some interesting paths, and ultimately to greater self-compassion.

LEO

9 of Wands

Almost there but not quite yet… you’ve been on a marathon lately, and this continues into October. It’s like feeling the pain of a stretch but holding it anyway, because you know it will do you good in the long run. The truth is, you’ve been growing so much, and you’ve been bravely stepping out of your comfort zone! It’s so admirable how you have been using your creativity and finding new ways to get inspired, and inspiring others in return. In the process though, self-defeating thoughts may have been flooding in, challenging your resolve. You may even have been feeling secretly ashamed for even harboring those thoughts and feelings. But please know that it’s so natural for the ego to protest any time we move out of our comfort zones, so let go of those worries and self-judgement! You’ve already been carrying around enough of a burden. In fact, this can be a great opportunity to observe the thoughts you tend to default to when things get challenging – do you start blaming yourself or others immediately? Or do you get extra self-critical and uptight? View them with amusement, dismiss them with a flick of your hair. It’s a part of you, but it sure doesn’t have to define who you are.

CANCER

Moon

How have you been handling the unknown, dear Cancer? This year, you’ve been making peace with the questions in your heart, in one way or another, but this hasn’t been an entirely easy process. Sometimes, you just want to know. You NEED to know. How will this story end? Is this the right path? Am I doing the best thing possible at this moment? All the pressure you put on yourself to peer ahead can drive you crazy and ironically, bring you further away from the answers you seek. It can be helpful to ask yourself: what is the FEELING you hope to achieve by finding out these answers? Is it peace, contentment, joy or a sense of self-worth – and why is it that you need XYZ before you can allow yourself these feelings? Which part of yourself will you then be able to accept? How will it change your beliefs about life? Asking yourself about the underlying feelings and beliefs that drive this need to know will bring you the necessary information you need to move forward, one step at a time, even if it means peering back in time to do so.

GEMINI

Wheel of Fortune

Change is in the air again, dear Gemini, and it’s a good time to reconsider your attitudes towards change, whether you consider them to be ‘good’ or ‘bad’. Consider that change is just change – a neutral, necessary part of life that nudges you towards growth. If you find yourself resisting, take time out to sit with your feelings and fears. What are you worried about? What are you afraid might happen? Are these fears rooted in reality? Allow yourself to trust that if you have done your part, sometimes there really isn’t anything left to do except trust in the Universe. Resisting what’s meant to be will only cause you stress and knock you off balance. However, if you feel like you have been treading water for a while now, relief is on the way – whether it’s in the form of a change of perspective, or a release of difficult circumstances – as long as you are willing to go with the flow.

TAURUS

Three of Pentacles

When building the foundation of anything, it’s important to take it slow while keeping the long run in view. Stability has been on your mind lately, and you’re feeling anxious to get to that point when you can finally lay back and feel pleased with your handiwork. In order to do that though, being present in the now moment is so important – including giving everyone who’s on your team a careful once-over, to make sure you’re placing your trust in the right people. Qualities like accountability, transparency, and an ability to learn and communicate are key, and cannot be compromised on. It’s also about learning how to balance pulling your own weight, while delegating tasks and trusting that others are also doing their part. This is especially true for you if you’ve been managing a change of roles lately – allow yourself time to get to know your new collaborators; it takes time to get into a steady rhythm.

ARIES

Father of Pentacles

Now is the time to wield your resources with wisdom and discernment, dear Aries. You are in a different position now – it’s time to think of yourself as your own talent manager. Your time, energy, attention, money and talents need to be carefully marshalled, and it will be helpful to start seeing them as finite resources that cannot be spent on just anyone and anything. Setting boundaries and priorities will help cut down on tiny decisions you make every day that tend to be a major time suck (“Should I go hang out with A? Should I do this right now?” – can all be replaced with “Does doing this serve my highest goals? Does this really matter in the larger scheme of things? Does this person support my goals and dreams and uplifts me in the process (and I do the same for them)?”) This is an important part of your growth that will serve you for time to come. When you take what you do seriously, others will follow suit.

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Your September 2017 Wisdom Scopes

September is about veils lifting – illusions melting away under the light of the Sun. As our world awakens to the havoc dealt by centuries of patriarchy, to all the ugly things that play out when egos and privilege are allowed to run amok, we are all collectively being called into action. To once again fall back asleep is no longer an option. We are rubbing the sleep from our eyes as fantasies of awaiting rescue and escape fade away in the harsh light of day.

August saw an intense eclipse season and Mercury retrograde that may have hit you right in the feels and left you disoriented. As Mercury goes direct Sep 5, things will start getting clearer – your brain swimming out of a fog that allowed you to go deep and process some knots you forgot existed – though things may still feel a little strange for the rest of the month! This past year or so has seen you being elevated and evolving at a speed that wasn’t possible even just 5 years ago – so keep in mind that growing pains are inevitable. This month, you will have the chance to start getting things moving. It’ll be a busy month with a lot of activity, so remember to pace yourself and get your daily self-care routines down pat.

ARIES

Death

You’re at the point where the changes you bravely implemented even just a few months ago are starting to show results, in sometimes unexpected ways. And perhaps the most unexpected change of all is that you are now gaining more confidence and wondering why you didn’t make this leap sooner. It’s like suddenly realizing that the world is so much bigger and that a whole lot more is available to you. And this is all very exciting! However, changes may also prove to be unsettling for a bit, especially when others react to your growth in ways that may seem disappointing or unsupportive. None of it is personal, dear Aries, so don’t take it to heart. People are all on their own individual journeys and often project their own feelings onto others when they are still finding their way. Stay focused on your growth, where you’re headed and how you want it all to feel – be prepared to emerge at the end of the month with new wings and a brand new outlook on life.

TAURUS

6 of Swords

Healing is a funny thing, dear Taurus. It isn’t about judging the younger version of you for being dumb for having fallen for that one trap or getting caught up in something you ‘should have known better’ than to do. Healing allows you to see the younger you with compassion, for being human and making mistakes that ultimately allowed you to grow and become wiser.  It’s also about seeing events in your life as opportunities to learn, grow and gain experience, instead of a relentless series of Pass/Fail tests. September will see you moving beyond moody waters and into a brighter, calmer space where your experiences can be put into further perspective. Solace will come from knowing that you had to go through what you did in order to understand a side of yourself that you had kept hidden from your consciousness. Now it’s all out there. This means that more energy is now freed up for creativity, joy and fun.  Be kind to yourself and know that you don’t have to push too hard. Do what you can and allow this month’s tides to carry you forward into the last quarter of the year, where this freer version of yourself can truly come out to play.

GEMINI

Tower

Old structures are falling all over the world and ripple effects are being felt by all of us. This month, you will be feeling it keenly as a part of your world may be rocked by one of these changes, and you will see that some of the foundations you’ve been standing on isn’t so solid after all. The guidance here is to take it all in your stride, even if it may be shocking and upsetting at first. The changes are necessary, and will reveal to you a truth that may have been kept hidden – and this will be ultimately freeing as you can now make better informed decisions going forward. Sometimes, this may also be wanting something too much and realizing that it isn’t really good for you after all – and you will have a chance to see this and make a course correction before you spend too much energy barreling down a path that simply isn’t meant for you. Trust that all that is falling away is meant to go, dear Gemini, you are only ever getting closer to the real you.

CANCER

7 of Swords, reversed

Take a deep breath, dear Cancer, and breathe out all of those heavy thoughts and feelings you’ve been carrying around. You’ll probably have realized by now that unplugging from your thoughts is the best way to feel better immediately. It isn’t easy to feel everything so acutely all of the time and be so beholden to your emotions, but all of this is really about learning that you don’t have to let them control you – and this may be a lifelong project for yout! This month, you’ll have the opportunity to get better and better at identifying where you often shortchange yourself or talk yourself out of things you really do want – or talk yourself into things you think you want, but that simply serve as a distraction from the real task at hand. And each time this happens, you know deep down inside what you’re doing, because you are smart and perceptive. Dare to be brutally honest with yourself, dear one – let go of who you think you should be so that you can free yourself to be who you are.

LEO

4 of Swords

You’ve really been working on overdrive recently, dear Leo, and it seems like you’ve put your energy into so many different cups that you’re a little overwhelmed. This month is a perfect time to pull all your mental energies back to yourself to contemplate and recharge. Your mind has been so busy that if you’re feeling scattered, it’s essential to calm your mind by minimizing overstimulation and unplugging from social media. Pulling back is also important to allow others the chance to step up and to do their part – your ability to take charge is so strong that sometimes people rely on you a lot more than they think! So rest, recuperate, and take time for yourself. It’s a time when you have to see all your initiations take root and grow, and that requires time, so no further effort is required on your part. More action doesn’t always mean more result, and that is true for you right now!

VIRGO

5 of Swords
Dear Virgo, your service to the world is undoubtedly necessary, especially in these times. Your attention to detail and ability to cut through illusions with your laser gaze is legendary. You come up with practical solutions with wit and flair. However, the flip side of it is exacting over-critical harshness which brings you down, sometimes even before you get to the starting line. September brings you the opportunity to work with some of your more nitpicky impulses and to shine the light of compassion on it. Where do you clamp down? Where do you get all uptight? Before you start thinking too hard in order to try and fix yourself, let the solution simply be: to loosen, to flow, to let go. The right course of action comes when you feel yourself relaxing and opening instead of digging in your heels and getting all aggro, even if that impulse comes first. Just flow with it and you will be able to sidestep any potential barbs thrown up by your mind this month. Know that your impulse to get critical and nitpick at yourself also comes when you’re about to grow and bloom further – it’s your ego’s protective mechanism. You’re actually blossoming – so see this within yourself and be a nurturing gardener of your own growth, dear one.

LIBRA

8 of Wands

In September, things will be moving quickly and are up in the air once again. It’s your job to figure out what matters to you, and which plans to put into motion. What has August brought to your attention? What new insights and learnings have you gleaned? September will give you more clues as to where your focus should point, and what deserves your time and attention. New beginnings come at the heels of endings, so if you had to end a relationship, project or dynamic, do so knowing that it was all meant to be in the larger scheme of things, and that new opportunities for growth are ahead. Also know that you have the rest of this year to set things in motion, so you don’t have to rush. Ground yourself this month by doing plenty of exercise, spending time in nature and taking time out to be alone, which isn’t always the easiest for you if you lean on the extroverted side of things! So make sure that when you unplug, truly unplug – leave your phone behind and tune into your body and your emotions to check that you have brought all of you along on this journey.

SCORPIO

9 of Pentacles

This month, the trust you have in the Universe and the hard work you’ve been putting out there will be reflected right back at you, so it’s a great time to check in with yourself and correct your course if you’ve meandered off the path. This is a month of paring down your priorities, refining your work, challenging yourself to grow and to do even better than you have before. The more you trust that the Universe supports your expansion, the more this will be reflected back at you. So go forth with faith! This also means investing in the right tools and equipment, perfecting your draft, and trusting your gut when it comes to your creative output. Whether on the job or with life in general, the more you can do things with the highest of integrity, the better. Sometimes this may mean relying on yourself and listening to your own intuition instead of blindly following authority (something you’ve never been one to do, anyway), so step up and take the lead, and be the example that someone else may need!

SAGITTARIUS

7 of Swords

Self-doubt can get the better of you sometimes, leading you to believe that you need more and more in order to prove that you’re already good enough. If you are torn by two opposing urges: to step out and shine vs. to hide and endlessly prepare, to go for the gold vs. settling for just okay – I have a feeling that going for the one that makes you profoundly uncomfortable will be more rewarding for you and everyone else in the long run. Yes, it’s about pushing your limits and really challenging yourself to bring your best. Only you will know when you’re settling and when you’re really stretching yourself, so check in with yourself often. Living this way takes effort and doesn’t allow you to slack off, so it can get tiring, but if you are here to contribute your unique talents and gifts, then there’s really no other way! And the world needs you to shine right now, dear Sagittarius. Never doubt it. Challenge yourself now so that when unexpected challenges come, you will rise beautifully to the occasion and be the leader everyone needs in these times.

CAPRICORN

Hanged One, reversed

You’re being asked to go within this month, dear Capricorn, and to trust. It’s not the most comfortable thing for you, but I’m sure you’d have realized by now that the theme of this year truly isn’t about comfort! You’re learning to navigate the space between wielding your will and trusting in the Divine, and learning to blend the two seamlessly. It’s a long process that doesn’t happen overnight, especially when we spend so much time being told that we need to ‘go out and get it’, an impulse that is natural to you. This time, you’re being held back a little bit more so that vital information can come to you. Acting deliberately or even not at all will be beneficial for you this month, if you are faced with a crossroads. Sit with things for a while longer, and take the opportunity to explore your relationship with the Divine. Do you believe that you are in charge, all of the time? When do you tune in for guidance – only when in dire need of help, or do you start off the day asking for the highest to be done through you? In other words, are you co-creating with the Universe? It’s a great month for redefining this relationship, perhaps the most important relationship of all (other than the one you have with yourself!)

PISCES

4 of Cups, reversed

Are you feeling like you’ve been in a rut, recently? It’s a strange feeling to have because everything on the surface seems to be going well – in fact, you may have been getting everything that you wanted. So why this feeling? Well, sometimes it’s a matter of having neglected yourself emotionally and spiritually, and because these aspects of yourself are as vital as breathing, you will end up feeling parched and dry, and stuck in a rut. Luckily, there’s a simple solution to this. It’s time to reconnect to simple joys: remember, you’re in the world, but you’re not of it. Being around materialistic norms and other societal conventions can be draining on you – think of yourself as a mermaid! Too long on land and your wonderful scales dry out. So go and dip into fantastical waters, shake off those conventions and let your hair down. Really get back in touch with what truly makes you glow, and you’ll be feeling better in no time, dear Pisces.

AQUARIUS

9 of Pentacles, reversed

You’re always fearlessly diving into the unknown, dear Aquarius, and it may seem to others that you don’t have any worries or cares. When in fact, you’re loathe to admit to others that of course you do have them, you just like dealing with them privately, in your own particular way. This month, fears of scarcity and of not having enough will come up for you, and may nag at your psyche. Digging beneath these fears, you’re really being asked to choose – do you go for that risky thing that your heart is nudging you towards, or do you choose the safer, more secure but possibly soul-deadening route? Or is there an option in the middle? The guidance here isn’t just about choosing one over the other, but it’s also about knowing why you’re making the choices you do. Are you acting from the belief that you will be supported if you go towards growth and expansion? Or are you acting from a place of fear and constriction? Know that no matter how legitimate these fears may have been for you in the past, it’s firmly a thing of the past now – but only if you’re willing to let go. It’s safe for you to move forward with confidence, so breathe through those feelings and take it one step at a time.