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“When will I meet the one?”

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“Is he the one?” “When will I meet the one?”

That’s probably the most common question I get.

My answer is: I don’t know / Perhaps

I wish I could tell you, I really do.

But I can’t.

For a very important reason.

In wanting romantic love, we actually get to know what our ideals are in the process of desiring it.

For example, you may be looking for someone who is kind, handsome, smart and athletic.

This actually tells you something about you, and the things that you like, the qualities that you value. This tells you who you are willing to give your love to. This could also tell you more about what you have been taught to love, what you think you deserve, and how love has felt like to you in your life thus far.

In the Western world especially, when so much comes down to Self Determination and having #Goals and effortfully working towards something, it’s no surprise that one works towards Manifesting a lover, vision boarding a soul mate, drawing up a 5 year plan, Pinterest-ing an entire wedding.

But see, the Universe doesn’t work like that.

The Universe laughs in the face of our checklists and plans.

Because the Universe wants to bring you love with a capital L, it wants you to know the real deal. All of our checklists of wants and wishes and desires pale in comparison to the blazing flames of Love.

Sometimes the Universe even brings us what we think we want, in order to show us that it isn’t really what we want. It all looks good on the outside. But while we’re in it, and experiencing it, something feels off. It feels like we should be happy because we have what we want, yet… There’s a disconnect.

At this juncture, we are being given a choice. Do we dare dig deeper to find out what the root of our discontent is? Do we dare ask questions, which may rock the very foundations of our deeply cherished assumptions and illusions? Do we really want to find out the Truth?

See, Love burns everything down in its path that is Not Truth.

It burns down ego constructs, it burns down vanity, it burns down things we do for the sake of appearances, it burns down false gods and masks and all manner of things. It shows us where we cling on because of old wounds, it tells us where we are lacking self-love.

And not everyone is ready for this.

And there is no judgement in this. It is not an easy process, not for the faint of heart. It requires you to leave everything behind that you once thought of as You. You – with that career, that image, that carefully planned out future. All of it, razed down to the ground. It asks for your sacrificial cow, slaughtered. It asks that you release your sweaty grip on your attachments, finger by finger, and asks that you dare to believe that’s what’s meant to be yours will come, what’s meant to stay will stay.

We are all asked to step up to this plate time and time again, to see if we are ready to open up to Love – not as just a one-time thing, but again and again throughout our lives, to open deeper, wider.

But it is 100% up to each of us as individuals whether we accept the challenge.

Sometimes we have to retreat to understand ourselves deeper. Sometimes we have to retreat to lick our wounds. Sometimes we have to fall back to gather strength. And sometimes it’s simply not the right time (or lifetime yet). And there is no judgement in this. All in divine timing.

The whole concept of Twin Flames is really a decoy. As humans, we long for that romantic partner. The concept of The One that is fed to us in popular media. Twin Flames tempt us with the image of an intoxicating romance, the missing piece of the puzzle, the one whom we can be safe with forever.

But the true purpose of a Twin Flame is to open us up to Divine Love. Love with a capital L. Universal Love. Love for all beings. The kind of love that breaks us open.

It shows us that yes, there may (or may not) be another human being exists who demands that you face yourself; that you are willing to fall apart to be put back together again. This may be in the form of one person, or they may come to you in many forms: the people you pass on the street, a friend, an enemy, family.

But with this person(s), if in your life for your higher good, there lies no safety. You will not be able to retreat and go to sleep forever. This person will show you that to hold up your end of the relationship, you will have to heal, to grow, to open. And to keep opening. And that they will have to do the same.

(PSA: None of this ever, ever, ever justifies abusive behavior, whether you believe they are your soul mate or twin flame or past life lover or whatever.)

The irony is that when come face to face with Love, many run.

It’s too painful. Ego barriers are broken down, the concept of The One is completely turned on its head. Many cannot bear to give up what they have carefully built as their ego identity because they dare not discover what lies beneath.

Shame, pain, abandonment, fears, monsters – all buried under years and years of careful cultivation and concealment. Would I still be worthy of love, if I confront where I was not loved, where I had been hurt, where my wounds were ignored? Where I was simply Not Good Enough?

The answer cannot be reached through logical analysis. The truth is Divine Love wants you to know that you are 100% worthy of love and wholeness. That you are already whole, you are already healed. That you ARE love. That you no longer have to keep on grasping for things to fill that hole within you, the hole that was caused by other imperfect humans trying to get to know Love, that can really only be filled by getting in touch with yourself and sitting within the embrace of the Divine.

And yet the world with all its illusions are too enticing, too seductive. Many keep on searching, seeking for the one outside of ourselves.

If you are asking, “When is my one supposed to come?” “Is he the one?”

I don’t know. But the Universe will keep bringing you opportunities to get to know Love, to open yourself up to Truth, to shatter illusions.

That Love is already here, that you no longer have to seek. That you are already whole, healed and good enough, and that even when the other appears, it will be as a bonus, a physical manifestation of the Love that is all around us.

The secret is: You have always been the Love you seek.

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Your July 2017 Wisdom Scopes

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July. Summer in the Northern Hemisphere, long days and warm nights. Our need to take action and cut to the chase is simultaneously challenged by the Universe’s call to surrender and allow. Remember that we are a part of a dance far larger than ourselves. The surplus of sun gives us a lot of yang energy, fanning our flames with gusto and initiative – yet sometimes imbuing us with a little too much impatience and bravado. So remember to consciously chill, put your feet up, slow down a little… or a whole lot. Find your sweet spot and July will offer you more clues into the path ahead, that you’ve been so bravely walking.

Aries

10 of Swords

Stop overthinking things, dear Aries! But of course, if only it were that easy… This month you may finally decide to quit overanalyzing things and doubting yourself for good. Why waste that raw intelligence of yours on something as fruitless as worry? You would have realized by now it’s simply not possible to know what’s 10 steps ahead of you if you’ve only barely taken half a step forward. Every decision you make in the present changes the course of your future. Take heart in the knowledge that even if you DO make a mistake, you’re smart and resourceful enough to correct your course and keep yourself on track! July will show you the ways that you tend to trip yourself up through certain impatient and self-doubting habits – not as a way to make you feel bad about yourself, but simply to show you how they really just aren’t serving you any longer. So choose another way: choose patience, choose to cut yourself some slack, choose to see possibilities even in the face of obstacles. You can do it, and nothing is as dire as your mind makes it out to be.

Taurus

Death

You’re going through yet another round of shedding your old skin again, and this time round, it’s going to feel surprisingly right and natural for you. Deep in your bones, you will feel that it’s been a long time coming, and you’re getting closer to the true version of who you know you can be. This can mean a major shift in your lifestyle, your way of thinking about life, the lens through which you view the world. It may not even take any external form just yet – simply a fundamental shift in mindset. In order to aid yourself through this process, you may feel a little more withdrawn or needing to be alone a little more. Allow yourself time to go through this. A lot is going on under the surface for you even if it doesn’t seem like it! Give yourself permission to disconnect regularly and go that place where you can shut yourself off from the world and just be. We are all collectively being birthed anew this year – and the birth process truly isn’t exactly the easiest one! It often takes far longer than we think, yet the rewards and sense of satisfaction if we stay with it is invaluable.

Gemini

2 of Wands reversed

Have you given your power away to someone or something recently? If you’ve been feeling like you’re a slave to your goals, dreams or schedule, then a re-assessment is in order. This can feel like the joy has been sucked out of the things you used to enjoy so much. Often, giving your power away isn’t so much a conscious decision as it is a series of compromises over time that slowly lead you away from your initial intentions. One way this happens is saying ‘Okay’ to stuff in the moment that, if given a moment to think about it, would have been better if you had just said ‘No’ upfront. This month, it will serve you well to look at all the projects and commitments you have on hand, and either consciously re-commit to them or decide to do away with something so you can better focus on your priority. You should feel as though you’ve made a conscious choice, instead of any sense of obligation or begrudging resentment. Remember: you choose your goals, not the other way around. Taking the time to re-align will help you adjust your attitude, which will then allow everything to flow much more smoothly. Take back your power.

Cancer

4 of Wands

July heralds a time of joy and celebration for you, and the only caveat is that you allow yourself to feel it. You can often be too immersed in your ever shifting emotions and self-critical thoughts to realize that you have already climbed the mountain, you’re already at the top, and you’ve just forgotten to look up to see it! This month is a pit stop to realize just how far you’ve come, so look forward to an accolade of some sort, a new position that really speaks to you, an opportunity that is the perfect fit for your skills, or a time when your ideas are really able to take root and when things are falling together in seemingly miraculous ways. Ease your mind and allow yourself to see the possibilities – for this time, you’re moving on to a new level, and you’re really doing just great. Allow yourself to savor your joys, dear one.

Leo

5 of Pentacles reversed

A burden will be lifted this month for you, dear Leo, in the realm of resources and financial strains. Relief is on the horizon, so if you’ve been worrying about it, you can look forward to breathing easier. Meanwhile, keep on focusing on what you’ve been doing – chances are, you’ve been learning patience and riding out dry spells in this period of time, and you’ve grown resilient and wiser in the process. You may have discovered inner resources you just never knew you had, and an ability to turn inwards and cultivate inner strength. You may also have realized that you have a lot more love and support around you that you can count on. So trust in it, and you will invite more of it in. The more you allow yourself to be vulnerable with loved ones, the closer you will grow to them. It’s a time of a renewed sense of security and a growing certainty in your visions and dreams.

Virgo

Magician

You’ve been brewing something for a while, dear Virgo, and the coming month will be the perfect time to start channeling all of that into concrete form. Now is not the time to sit on the fence and brood, or overthink things!  Whether it’s a creative project, a business idea, or bringing your project to a new level, you have that extra power at your fingertips. You will have a lot of planetary support this month, and any action you take will be supercharged and imbued with power. It will be a big change from the months prior, where you felt like a lot of it was in incubation, learning or waiting mode. This is a year where we are all collectively being birthed anew – and the birth process truly isn’t exactly the easiest one. It often takes far longer than we think, yet the rewards and sense of satisfaction if we stay with it is utterly invaluable. Inspiration will be coming from everywhere, and the challenge will be in sieving out the valuable from mere white noise. How do you do that? By tuning into your heart – know that by combining your famous ability to synthesize information and make astute judgements with faith and trust, you will be unstoppable. Make a commitment to yourself and your life.  Focused, decisive action and follow through will help you make important moves in realizing your dreams and building a solid foundation for the future.

Libra

Temperance

This a month of consolidation for you, dear Libra. Things have been up in the air with some stops and starts – all very much in line with the energies of this year. It hasn’t been easy – and to be honest, things aren’t about to get easier – but your ability to roll with it and shoulder things with strength and resilience has been steadily growing. It’s truly impressive, and you need to stop and pat yourself on the back! It’s still going to be hectic for you, but you will now have opportunity to pause and catch your breath. Rest. Allow your active mind respite by telling your thoughts: I hear you. I hear what you’re telling me. But all I have now is this moment, and this moment is good enough as it is. And then rest in that moment where you can tune out of your noisy thoughts. Be gentle with yourself as you find your balance and your peace, especially for those of you who have just moved – metaphorically or physically – to a new location, whether it’s in your mind or your dwellings. Decorate your space. Create beautiful surroundings, settle in, and create a base which will allow you to stay focused in the areas of your life that demands it.

Scorpio

Hermit

It’ll be a flurry of activity around you this month, dear Scorpio, but you will also be in the eye of the storm. It’s a time of turning inwards and synthesizing all that you have seen, learnt and done so far this year, and it’s important to really take the time to mull over it properly. Sometimes you can get so caught up busy analyzing and helping others, that you often neglect yourself and how you really feel deep inside! Insight will come to you in dream time and creative expression. Each time external duties and obligations tug at you, and you find yourself confused or unable to make a decision, that’s a signal that you’ve become temporarily disconnected from your higher self. Take a step back, breathe and avoid jumping to conclusions or making snap judgements. Doubts may surface but it’s also important to remember that you DO already know, and that you ARE good enough.

Sagittarius

5 of Cups

The thing that drives you the most is hope – a beautiful ideal, vision or belief about the world that makes you feel like it’s worth getting up each day. That’s why when you sometimes see the ugly truth behind certain things in this reality, you tend to get dispirited and depressed, even though they may be pretty commonplace or matter-of-fact to others. This month, there may be a similar experience for you, where you experience a disillusionment of sorts. A sense of loss – and yet, could you stay open to the blessing hidden within this? You will be able to proceed with a firmer grasp on reality, a more solid sense of where you truly stand. Through seeing difficult, and often painful things, you are able to grow and deepen your understanding of the world, which will allow you to make informed decisions in the future. You are experiencing this now only because you are ready for it. Know that your heart is big enough to withstand changes and unexpected turns of events. This month is a month that will test your ability to look for the silver linings – luckily, support is everywhere around you. Lift your gaze and see that you have so many people who love & care for you, who will show you that love is often hiding in plain sight, dressed up in experiences of all kinds.

Capricorn

9 of Swords

You will start to see the futility of worrying about the future this month, dear Capricorn. Life will go out of its way to show you how things can often go much better than planned, how unexpected losses often turn out to be blessings in disguise, and that trying to strategize 10 years into the future will only cause you to miss out on the ever-changing and beautiful present moment. All it takes is for you to recognize how these thought patterns get triggered – is it fears of security? A lack mentality? What causes you to go into worry mode, where you attempt to build a fortress around yourself? The flip side of your worry is your sharp intellect and determination, which allows you to go after your goals with a steely grit. However, if you let that side of you take over, you will start feeling grim and joyless. So harness the good will recognize that it comes as a double-edged sword. Life isn’t just about scaling that mountain! Bring back the joy, and drop the worries when they seem to be simply tripping you up. Life will show you how this month – all you have to do is take its cue when it comes. Open up instead of clamping down.

Aquarius

5 of Swords

Your past experiences have taught you how to look out for yourself and your self-interests. A lot of that was important to help you establish boundaries and protect yourself. However, this month asks that you temper that instinct with a larger view and to tap into your sense of fairness and compassion. Where can you consider others more? Where can you allow for trust and give others the benefit of the doubt? Sometimes in striving for your own self-interest, you may unwittingly run rough shod over others, even though you are both actually working towards a common goal. Be aware of what is within your control and what isn’t – and be willing to give others the room to make their own decisions without needing to micro-manage. This is a year where we are all collectively being birthed anew – and the birth process truly isn’t exactly the easiest one! You are being asked to step up into a far more expansive and forgiving, compassionate version of yourself – and this can often be hard work. It often takes far longer than we think, yet the rewards and sense of satisfaction if we stay with the process is invaluable. So stick with it, dear Aquarius.

Pisces

3 of Cups

This month, you will feel rejuvenated with renewed energy after a period of time where you may have been grinding through some tough spots. This sweetness will be flowing from the company of others, so getting together with people you really care about (and who care about you!) will allow you to savor life and slow down for a moment. It also points to a time when you are truly ready to appreciate the people who may have been around you all along – there was a period of expansion and adventure, where you were out discovering new facets of yourself, meeting new people and exposing yourself to new experiences. And now, you’re ready to return home to familiar faces and see them in a new light. If you’ve been isolating yourself for a while, or simply having a needed retreat from social activities for a while, July will be great for dipping a toe back into social waters. Seeking out professional support is also highlighted – so if you’ve been thinking of seeking counseling, try out a few therapists on for size. All it takes is for you to reach out – and support will be readily available. Enjoy this sweet month, dear Pisces, your community is there for you.